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mage-propaganda:

I’m mad enough about seeing that “ew men I hate being bisexual” post on my dash, that you know what? If you can, please reblog this with at least one thing you love about men. It can be anything! Physical, an emotional trait - anything.

I’ll go first: I love men’s smiles. They’re so warm, and pure, and bright. Seeing men smile genuinely makes my day better.

girl you’re so brave ❤️

i love when grown ass men aren’t part of the over a million members of / aren’t lurking r/18_19 and aren’t beating their meat to barely legal still in highschool naked teenage girls

I love when grown ass men only deny, deflect, and drink to deal with their issues with no regard for the girls they fuck up in the process. Fuck men.

Oh no, I’ve known some shitty ass men. Was sexually assaulted by a man too, thought he was my friend. First relationship was me being groomed and abused by an adult as a tween (don’t count that one). My dad abused me emotionally (maybe a bit physically but I’m still unclear on how to define that).

Shit still wasn’t as bad as the women (multiple) who sexually assaulted me, the abuse endured by my mother from her mom, the abuse I faced from my mother, or any of the abuse you assholes are excusing from women that I have experienced, and that I know others close to me have experienced. My father said shitty things to me, he never once said I was a failure who he wished he never loved and would never love from that moment on and insinuated he wished I was never born. You know who did? My mom! Wow! I could go on, and on, an on about shitty ass women I’ve had in my life. Because there are shitty ass women, believe it or not.

I don’t seem to understand how many shitty men there are out there? I think I do actually. I’m not paranoid and thinking all men are secretly evil masterminds out to get me, if that’s the issue. But y’all refuse to acknowledge how many evil women there are, hiding perfectly in plain site, out there. Hell, anytime I respond with personal antidotes or the fact that there are shitty women I never get a response. I only do get a response if it can fit your guy’s propaganda, your whole agenda and lies. Because I know for a fact y’all don’t want to think about the gross, and disgusting, and awful women there are out there because that throws your whole argument out the window.

Because it’s almost like…people can choose to be bad people, and it’s not just a disease that plagues one specific half of the population. Wow! Maybe no one is inherently evil!

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John Mulaney openly platforms and supports transphobia

Guillermo Del Toro signed a petition calling for a child r*pist to be allowed at a film festival

Chris Pratt is one of the top donors to an ultra homophobic/transphobic mega church

Clint Eastwood is a shameless, violent racist

Lin Manuel Miranda and his family openly support and help fund PROMESA, a federal law that allows the united states to forcibly colonize and gentrify puerto rico to this day

I could spend YEARS listing every shitty garbage celebrity and why theyre so awful, meanwhile I could probably count any “unproblematic faves” on one hand.

Is it okay to like the media these people create/star in? Absolutely. The shale of water is my favorite film. I enjoyed guardians of the galaxy. I think spiderverse is one of the greatest animated movies ever made.

BUT LIKING THE THINGS THESE PEOPLE ARE IN DOES NOT MEAN YOU HAVE TO IDOLIZE THEM!!! im not saying this because im mad at folks for doing it, I just want yall to stop building yourself up to be hurt. Because I was like this too, and finding out stuff about my favorite celebrities used to genuinely upset me. But now I know better and I want yall to too. Because you’ll be happier people once you remember that THESE PEOPLE ARE ALL PIECES OF SHIT AND YOU DO NOT NEED TO LOVE THEM TO LOVE ART THAT INCLUDES THEM.

The problem with listening to modern, mens country music. Is that there are instances where you’re just like….you have no idea what being a woman is like. You sing A LOT about girls, but you don’t seem to have thought about how some of those girls would hear your song. Or what you’re saying even MEANS.

This song for example, sounds really good, but the lyrics:

I just wanna turn in early
I don’t want to see where this goes
You’re getting just a little too flirty
You’re getting just a little too close

Said nobody
Said nobody, ever
Said nobody
Said nobody, ever

Don’t come any closer
Don’t give me a kiss
‘Cause I don’t wanna taste your lips

Said nobody
Said nobody, ever

…..pretty sure there are women, not even a small number, who’ve said these exact things, to men, and been ignored. 

I get it, it’s a good time song…but I can’t listen to it without thinking about this, and to me that says that, this song is not for women, it’s just about them.

poeticmoonspirit:

zutarawasrobbed:

Honestly, after the shit Aang pulled at the ember island players, I 100%would’vesupported the episode ending with Aang walking in on Zuko and Katara making out.

Oh straight up, because that shit was nonconsensual and the fact that Aang threw another temper tantrum just pissed me off. I don’t care that he’s 12, the narrative needs to show him actually learning and taking accountability.

I hate the whole “he was 12. He was just a kid” excuse. So what? Katara was also a kid. Hell- I was a kid when I was assaulted. And my assault was way more than an unwanted kiss.

Just because someone is “a kid” doesn’t make their actions any less damaging to the victim. Why is it that when a male forces themselves on someone at a young age it’s “just a mistake?” But when it comes to the female victim it’s always “she should’ve known better?”

I was 13, and it’s almost been a decade since I was attacked, and I’m still trying to move on. I lost my childhood and experiences all girls should have growing up because of him and what he did to me at that same age.

Meanwhile, he’s off accomplishing his ten-year plan as if nothing happened. And that’s because it didn’t- not to him. To him, I’m just collateral damage. It’s not fair. It’s not fair that men like him get away with these things and society lets them because people are conditioned to defend them.

That’s where the excuses of “he was just a kid. You should’ve known better. What were you wearing? Don’t ruin his life, etc.” all come from. “Don’t ruin his life.” What about mine?

This whole scene triggers me because the way the show presents it was “a mistake” and quickly forgotten by the end of the series. I personally would’ve been fine if they kept that in if they showed some form of repercussion to signify that this type of behavior is not okay because this type of messaging is dangerous to children, especially to young girls.

But instead of using that scene- that is recognizable to almost every woman and afab person out there- as a learning opportunity on boundaries, it’s just used as a way to further the “will they won’t they” dynamic.

lifeofroos:

A/N: The Athena & Hephaestus chapter. Tell me what you think, because I can’t be sure. It’s heavy, so be warned. 

AO3-KoFi

Mind and Matter

‘Hephaestus…’ Athena felt her heart skip a beat. The confidence she had had before walking into the workshop faltered. 

Hephaestus froze. She was the last one he had expected to show up to his forge unannounced. ‘Athena?’

The goddess took a deep breath. ‘I need you to tell me about making humanoid automatons.’ 

‘That’s not difficult.’

‘I mean automatons that act and think like a human does, not automatons that look like one.’ 

Hephaestus slowly turned around. Athena sat further away then she used to, back when. ‘You want my opinion?’

‘Why else would I be here, in this dirty, oily workshop?’

‘You used to say it was dusty.’

‘I think it’s oily now.’

He sighed. ‘Why exactly do you want my opinion on this matter?’

‘Because you are the one who will inevitably make a machine like that. The rest of us can theorise what it will be like, but that’s not worth much if we can’t make it. We should work together on this one.’ 

Hephaestus felt cold inside. ‘Perhaps we should.’

Athena nodded as she glanced around the workshop. She’s must be looking for escape routes. The thought didn’t make Hephaestus feel better. ‘I am sure this place used to be a lot cleaner.’

‘A lot cleaner when?’

‘Back when we…’ She stopped. ‘Not important. We are here to talk about automatons.’

‘You are. I think we should start with… defining human behaviour. What sets them apart from automatons in the first place.’

‘Yes, that would be apt.’ Athena was quiet until she realised Hephaestus wouldn’t talk first either. ‘They… ahem. Automatons can be easily taught to move and act and talk like humans. What sets humans apart from them is… their emotions. It’s… it’s a core part of who they are.’

The silence became almost unbearable. Athena had learned the sentences she would say by heart. She hadn’t taken into consideration what it would mean to say those sentences to Hephaestus. 

Hephaestus took a deep breath. ‘Well…’

Um, yeah…’

‘So…’

Athena threw a bolt across the room in a sudden fit of anger. ‘This is impossible.’

‘You look defeated.’

‘Yes, because I have to give in to Artemis that I’ve got two choices: Never see you ever again, or work it out.’

Hephaestus pulled up his shoulders. ‘Dionysus said something similair. But I don’t know where to start, Athena. I don’t understand what happened.’

Athena looked at her hands. ‘What happened is that we were friends, and suddenly you wanted to be more than that and I didn’t, and then…’ she shrugged and shook her hair. ‘Then nothing.’

‘I get it.’ Athena cringed. They used to always get each other, back when. Up until the incident. ‘Someone… someone told me you did want more.’

‘Who?’

‘Someone. They told me you did like me that way…’

‘They told you I was in love with you.’ 

‘…they told me that you were in love with me. After a few times, I was tempted to believe them. I think I knew, deep down, that you didn’t, but I never trusted my own feelings. When it turned out you weren’t in love with me, I was… so ashamed, Athena, and with good reason.’

‘Why are you not saying the name of the person who told you all that?’

‘I…’

‘Is it to protect them? Why would you do that?’

Hephaestus slowly shook his head. ‘Too much shame.’ 

Athena bit the inside of her cheek. ‘When it happened, I felt…’ She hesitated. 

‘Throw it out.’

‘I felt gross and betrayed. I thought we could make things together, beautiful things, without having love involved. And then…’ She sighed. ‘Yet, that you were lied to…’ She stared at her lap. He should have been less insecure, she thought to herself. Look at the mess we’re in now. ‘Sorry.’

 ‘Don’t. It… I already knew it. And it’s true.’

‘Doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt.’

‘No, but…’ Hephaestus felt the tears burning behind his eyes. ‘It is just that it makes sense that you feel that way after what I did.’

Athena half-snickered, half-sobbed. ‘You really understand.’ She wiped her eyes.

‘How do we recover now?’

‘I thought I already did.’ Athena swallowed. ‘That’s why I said I would go here. I wanted to prove I could do it.’

When she looked up at Hephaestus, she gasped. ‘I am hurting you.’

Hephaestus stared at the silver on his anvil. ‘Maybe that’s not bad. Dionysus says that feelings need to be a mess in order to make sense of them. Like with cleaning a workshop. You need to make more of a mess to see everything you’ve got. Then you can detangle and sort it all.’

Athena shrugged. ‘I didn’t want to have those feelings. It’s not wise to carry grudges.’

‘Emotions don’t care about wisdom. Or logic.’ 

‘We can deal with them wisely.’

Hephaestus nodded. ‘Perhaps it’s time to do that. I… I am sorry, Athena. Sorry for what I did and sorry for making such a mess of your mind.’ 

‘I accept your apologies. Perhaps…’ she swallowed. ‘You know, I always hoped we could work together again, but I know it would never be the same. It won’t be like back when.’

‘No.’

‘No.’  They were quiet for a little while.

‘We didn’t even get to talk about automatons.’

‘We did get to talk about emotions though. I think I understand those better now.’ 

Hephaestus nodded. ‘Perhaps feelings are too advanced for any Automaton to have.’

‘I am almost sure of it.’ Athena felt like it had been enough. She stood up. ‘I’ll come back. We need to talk again.’

Hephaestus quietly nodded. 

‘Is there something?’

‘It was Poseidon, Athena.’ 

Athena felt a cold knot in her stomach. ‘That… that…’ 

‘I am so…’

‘Don’t. He made us both victims. He used you to get at me and as such destroyed our friendship.’ She slowly shook her head. ‘I… I need to think.’

‘Bye… goodbye.’

While she stepped outside, it felt like a weight was lifted off of Athena’s shoulders. She chuckled. But what did it mean? She didn’t know. She needed rest. 

A/N: I haven’t written about Athena like this often. She always feels like a bit of an automaton. It was interesting, because of course she would have feelings under the tough attitude. It probably takes a lot to make her lose her cool, because with wisdom you can always find the right solution, but that doesn’t mean it can’t happen. Some feelings and events just don’t care for all your wisdom, or it’s wiser to let the feelings flow out. 

No hard feelings to the old Pos but in this story he is kind of a total jerk. This is going to lead to me explaining my interpretation of old Pos isn’t it-

This was incredibly difficult to write. I didn’t name the incident that created the first king of Athens, because that would create implications I didn’t know how to deal with. I still don’t know if this was written good enough. I might return to the Athena & Hephaestus friendship, mostly because it turned out way heavier than I intended. It also felt like I couldn’t make it better, the words wouldn’t change anymore. 

ilikepipecleanerswitheyes:

aaron taylor johnsonandcharlie heaton were both groomed by older, more powerful women when they were new to the industry. terry crews spoke of being sexually harassed by an executive. brendan fraser was sexually assaulted and the experience was so horrible for him that it spiraled him into a depression, affecting his career. his assaulter never faced charges. the kevin spacey trial is coming up where he is being charged for sexual assault.

if you GENUINELY care for male victims, at least famous ones, you’d make some noise about these cases. however, these past few months, i have hardly seen a bolstering of these cases. instead i see a campaign of inappropriate memes and edits being made. is that your way to show you “care about male victims” lmao?? by making a mockery of a case discussing dv topics?? i think people like to hide behind the guise of caring about male victims when it’s really just an excuse to engage in inappropriate, obscene behaviors.

leatherwhiskeycoffeeplaid:

Please help me escape my current living situation


I’ve thought about doing this for awhile and was too scared to for fear my husband would see this post but I can’t do it anymore. I need help to get myself and my son out of an abusive situation. I’m going to place my story below a cut because it will contain topics that can be triggering.

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JUSTICE HAS BEEN SERVED 

The judge who sentenced this sexual predator is Rosemarie Aquilina. Larry Nassar abused over 150 women, including Gabby Douglas, Simone Biles, and Aly Raisman. Judge Rosemarie made sure this predator pays the price for each and every one of them. Hella props to this badass judge. Judges around the world need to take notes. 

This is a gif of Judge Rosemarie tossing a bullshit letter larry nassar wrote about how “hard” it is for him to hear his victims testify. The level of badassary within this woman is untouchable. 


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a-real-feminist:

a 17 year old girl reported being raped by 4 policeman in mexico city and the authorities did nothing about it; that’s what been happening in mexico.

in 2017 a girl disappeared every 5 hours and the numbers keep rising.

“si no regreso quemen todo” “if i ever don’t return, burn it all” that’s what his is all about, justice.


#NoMeCuidanMeViolan (they do not protect me, they rape me)

snapeingturtle:

This fucker on tiktok comment section talking about “well it’s not James’s fault that Snape chose not to wear trousers under his robes so no it wasn’t sa” of course it wasn’t James’s fault! It was the school’s fault, or the magical society’s because TROUSERS WERE NOT A PART OF THE HOGWARTS UNIFORM. Guess Snape could’ve worn them under his robes anyway if he didn’t want to be exposed in front of a crowd but I really hope no one thinks that.

So they’re saying it’s a teen girl’s fault, when a guy lifts up her dress, for not wearing trousers under.

Inescapably, that’s what they’re saying by blaming teen Snape for not wearing trousers. And like, literally it’s normal for wizards not to, just as with dresses, but even if it wasn’t - it doesn’t give people the right to strip them nonconsensually just because it might not show underwear!

They’re also saying it’s the muggle victims’ own faults, when the Death Eaters used levicorpus on them in GoF.

you know what’s weird to witness?? a large portion of the internet suddenly realizing that making “funny” tiktoks to amber heard’s sexual assault testimony is fucked up or at least realizing that a lot of other people think it’s fucked up. so now the thing to say is “amber may be lying it’s still wrong to make light of sexual assault!!” which like. is better than the people making jokes but at the same time the constant qualifiers feel like they undermine the message.

yeah, this woman is an evil conniving bitch lying about a brutal sexual assault for attention and money but not everyone is like that so don’t joke!

like, points for reaching the bar that’s literally on the ground i guess but maybe we should all take a second and realize that the same internet who thought those “jokes” were funny in the first place have been the ones dominating this conversation.

yes, those tiktoks are evil because they’re making light of abuse in general. they’re also evil because these people are listening to a woman testify to sexual assault and deciding that they are so sure she’s lying that they feel comfortable mocking it. some of you are very much still active participants in this insane smear campaign and your words are barely better than meaningless.

susansontag:

well done folks misogyny reached some new and exciting heights here

they’re tweeting shit like that to distract from the fact that the woman on the left is both board certified and specializes in domestic violence, and testified to the horrific sexual assault amber has been reporting privately for years. but yeah ha ha psychologist on the right more attractive therefore more correct and good !

Phoenix Rising: Surviving Marilyn Manson

Warning: Contains graphic information on sexual and physical violence. All information has been taken from the Phoenix Rising documentary, with a few links to online video uploads. Underlined sentences are linked to other sources.

Evan Rachel Wood met Brian Warner, otherwise known as Marilyn Manson, in mid-2006, at the Chateau Marmont in Los Angeles. Wood was 18 years old and Warner was 37. He approached her as a fan of her work and expressed interest in collaborating with her on his film project, Phantasmagoria, a creative adaptation of Lewis Carroll’s literary work. The two exchanged numbers, with Wood under the impression that it would be strictly work-related. 

She began going to his home regularly, under the guise of working on the script. While there, he would give her Absinthe. The two would drink and discuss matters unrelated to the script. While not a fan of his music, Wood developed a god-like impression of Warner, admiring his intelligence, eloquence, and honestly. She described herself as feeling lost and as needing a home, thus a “perfect candidate for grooming." 

Their first romantic interaction occurred the night before Wood was scheduled to leave to work on a movie. Warner placed his arm around Wood’s shoulders and said "I’m going to miss you.” He then aggressively kissed her. Inebriated on Absinthe, Wood described herself as remaining frozen due to shock. 

Their romantic relationship quickly developed. Wood broke up with her partner, Jamie Bell, and Dita Von Teese, Warner’s wife, filed for divorce. Warner would lovebomb Wood with love notes, telling her that she had “inspired [him] to make music again,” and “I can be Marilyn Manson again.” In 2007, when Wood was 19, they carved each other’s initials onto their bodies (scarification). Wood carved “MM” next to her vagina. Warner quickly isolated Wood from her family and friends, particularly through severing her relationship with her mother. 

Later in 2007, they filmed the music video for Heart Shaped Glasses. Warner had pitched the idea to Wood as a True Romance inspired video, for which the two were to film a stimulated sex scene. However, Warner loaded Wood with Absinthe during filming, and she became so inebriated to the point that she was unable to give consent to the unscripted acts which were taking place. While filming the sex scene, Warner forcibly penetrated her, raping her on camera. A crew member corroborated Wood’s account in Rolling Stone, stating “the crew was uncomfortable” and that Wood “seemed off and numbish.I’ve attached a link to a petition to have the video removed from Youtube

Through the media coverage of their relationship and the video, Wood’s reputation in the film industry was tarnished through public ridicule and shame, which further isolated her from her peers. Warner’s abuse also increased steadily. He displayed extreme jealousy, and would become violent and destructive towards their property when accusing Evan of having affairs (note: pattern is very familiar to John Depp’s abuse of Amber Heard). Warner would hack into her computer to monitor her emails and messages. Wood, who is Jewish, also noticed Warner collecting more and more Nazi paraphanilia. Warner has notably displayed a long time obsession with Hitler and swastikas. Warner also wrote “kill all Jews” above Wood’s bedside wall. A video showcases Warner stating to Wood “answer me, for f*ck’s sake, or I’ll kill you.

The first incident of physical violence occurred while Wood joined Warner on tour for eight months in 2008. While high on vicodin (prescribed for his throat), Warner aggressively dragged Wood into their hotel room and began destroying property. A crew member, Dan Cleary, has corroborated Wood’s account. While on tour, he saw Warner purposely embarrass, intimidate, and threaten severe violence to Wood until she was on the verge of tears, and stated that ”he broke her.“ He also attested to witnessing Warner abuse his current wife, Lindsay Usich.  

According to Evan, Warner’s abuse worsened upon Twiggy re-joining the band in 2008. He would torment Wood through humiliating and taunting her in front of others. He exerted control over her birth control and refused to wear condoms. He blackmailed her by drugging her and forcing her to take nude pictures, use racial slurs, and consume hard drugs while recording these incidents on video. According to Wood, he has used these tactics to prevent people from speaking out about the abuse, which prevented her from doing so.

Upon moving into their Glencoe residence, he began to torture and brainwash Wood using various tactics, which include: depriving her of sleep for several days; exposing her to freezing cold temperatures; and raping her in her sleep. He also secretly started putting meth into their drugs, as Wood noticed herself developing scabs all over her body, her nose was bleeding all the time, and she was constantly itchy and jittery. 

Evan left him for the first time in 2009, upon him ignoring her falling down a set of stairs and cutting her head open to go out with a friend. It was during this period that he gave a notorious Spin interview in which he stated ”every time I called her that day — I called 158 times — I took a razorblade and I cut myself on my face or on my hands“ and ”I have fantasies every day about smashing her skull in with a sledgehammer.

Through threats of self-harm, he manipulated Evan into coming back to their residence to calm him down. Upon arriving, he whipped Evan while she knelt naked over a kneeler, targeting her genital area. She broke down sobbing in excruciating pain and begged for his forgiveness. He then made her drink his blood. Whenever Evan attempted to leave, he would lovebomb her, for which the abuse would resume. 

While filming the Mildred Pierce mini-series, Wood discovered she was pregnant. When she returned home after getting an abortion, he immediately told her to ”make [him] dinner.Wood became increasingly suicidal and attempted suicide shortly afterwards. She described this as a cathartic experience and she started fighting back against Warner’s abuse. She escaped Warner for good when she left to go film The Ides of March.

Evan was diagnosed with severe PTSD a few years afterwards. She has since become an advocate for survivors’ rights. Her work through the Phoenix Act organizes to raise the California statute of limitations for domestic violence and sexual assault from 3 years to 10 years. In 2021, Wood named Warner as her abuser on Instagram.Several other women have come forward about Warner, including Esme Bianco,Sarah McNeilly, and Ashley Walters, who have accused him of sexual and physical assault. Singer Phoebe Bridgers has also come forward about Warner’s "rape room” and that his abuse was known to his record label, management, and band.Warner’smisogynisticviolence has been public for decades.He also wrote about violently physically abusing his own mother in his 1999 autobiography

Warner has denied all accusations of abuse. Taking notes from his good friend John Depp, in 2021 he sued Wood for defamation and is seeking a jury trial.Wood has received harassment and death threats from Manson fans, and was forced to leave her California home because of the threats Warner made to her and her son. Manson’s fans have created a similar Justice for Manson hashtag on social media websites, alleging Wood to have created a hoax with Amber Heard. Warner is still under investigation by the Los Angeles Sheriff’s Department’s Special Victims Bureau. 

Once more, here is the link to the petition have Heart Shaped Glasses removed from Youtube.

Believe survivors.

methed-up-marxist:

bro i fucking hate that we use “creep” and “freak” and “weirdo” to mean “person who sexually assaults/harasses people” Like overwhelmingly sexual assault isnt a result of deviation from social norms, its a result of conformation to them. Ultimately it is premised on the notion that sexual assault is the result of some inherent natural urge which it is the function of society to repress and civilise out of us. Like hobbes died over 300 years ago you dont have to keep doing this shit

YOU ARE NEVER ALONEAfter the results of the 2016 election, I was feeling very hopeless. The United SYOU ARE NEVER ALONEAfter the results of the 2016 election, I was feeling very hopeless. The United SYOU ARE NEVER ALONEAfter the results of the 2016 election, I was feeling very hopeless. The United SYOU ARE NEVER ALONEAfter the results of the 2016 election, I was feeling very hopeless. The United S

YOU ARE NEVER ALONE

After the results of the 2016 election, I was feeling very hopeless. The United States just elected a man that has not only been accused of sexual assault, but that has openly admitted to doing it and considers it a perk of being famous.

I will be selling these 1.25" hard enamel pinsand50% of the profits will be donated to RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) to help fund their hotline as well as educate the public about sexual assault.

I will not allow our president elect to normalize sexual assault. Sexual violence is a heinous crime and together we can HELP, LEARN, LISTEN, AND INFORM.

If you’d much rather donate to RAINN directly, you can do so by clicking here


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YOU ARE NEVER ALONEAfter the results of the 2016 election, I was feeling very hopeless. The United S

YOU ARE NEVER ALONE

After the results of the 2016 election, I was feeling very hopeless. The United States just elected a man that has not only been accused of sexual assault, but that has openly admitted to doing it and considers it a perk of being famous.

I will be selling these 1.25" hard enamel pinsand50% of the profits will be donated to RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) to help fund their hotline as well as educate the public about sexual assault.

I will not allow our president elect to normalize sexual assault. Sexual violence is a heinous crime and together we can HELP, LEARN, LISTEN, AND INFORM.

If you’d much rather donate to RAINN directly, you can do so by clicking here


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thingstrumperssay:

Every time I use my situation as an example of why abortion should be legal it usually goes like this-

“If I get pregnant as a result of rape I will die if I can’t abort the fetus before it kills me.”

“Then get your tubes tied.”

“My insurance won’t pay for that and I can’t afford it. Are you going to pay for it?”

“No, why would I do that? It’s not my responsibility to make sure you don’t get pregnant! (Even though I’m making it so you can’t abort it.)”

People are actually trying to tell me to “keep my legs closed” or to “use protection” when the example I gave was “as a result of rape.”

I reported and blocked those people because they don’t deserve the attention they’re starved for but imagine telling an actual rape victim that they should’ve kept their legs closed or use protection? Disgusting.

It’s been 2 days since allegations against Tom Milsom, and later former Sons of Admirals bandmate Alex Day, were made and the YouTube community is still deeply in shock.

Further accusations of sexual and emotional manipulation have been made about Day (http://nephiesworld.tumblr.com/post/79482695900/couldnt-sleep-wanted-to-rant-too-for-the-final-time), travel blogger Nephelia has released a statement alleging that he and his cousin, Sopio card co-creator Danny, traveled to her house and that it lead to things happening that she did not consent to:

“I stupidly shared a bed with Alex because he was holding my hand and I thought that was just gonna be it […] I’d never experienced anything like that before, especially when someone kind of ends up on top of you in the dark”

Furthermore, referring to Day’s cousin Danny and an un-named person, she states that:

“I had to listen to people who were 11 years apart having underage sex”

John Green

She also adds further credence to the theory that this was a long standing pattern of abuse by Day and a significant problem within the YouTube community as a whole, saying that:

“Alex texted Danny something along the lines of “which one do you want” because apparently he got first choice the last time this happened”

“when I first met Lindsey and I told her I had only been hanging out with youtubers for a few months, she told me to run away as fast as I could, and she was right. She was always right about that”

Shockingly, she says that none other than Vlogbrother John Green himself may have had suspicions about Day for years:

“John Green’s been warning girls after they have been in videos with Alex about him for the past few years”

“I used to be really good friends with Kim and she was in contact with John on skype and stuff, and after she was in a video with him (the test thingy one) John kind of gave her a warning about hanging out with him”

Day’s New Statement

Day has released a further statement (http://that-alexday.tumblr.com/post/79505198461/on-consent), apparently admitting to violating people’s lack of consent:

“Until yesterday, I thought that I had had only appropriate, though occasionally manipulative relationships with women. However, the model of consent that I followed, not that I specifically thought about it at the time - was that only “no” meant “no.” That is not what consent is.”

Confusion and False Accusations

Despite valuable contributions from people who have collated as much valid information together as they can (http://unpleasantmyles.tumblr.com/post/79455706244/heres-the-post-olga-made-about-tom-milsom-and) in many cases confusion has ruled the day, posts asking for any information at all fill the tags of many prominent YouTubers.

This has not been helped by completely fabricated accusations directed at Tyler Oakley and popular bloggers and now radio presenters Dan and Phil. Both sets have now either been recanted and removed by the author or outright disproven.

Frustration has even been directed at Vlogbrother Hank Green, his previous silence over the matter and Day’s as of then continued presence on the DFTBA website, in contrast to the almost immediate disowning of Tom Milsom after the original allegations were made against him, has prompted accusations of a lack of transparency.

In response, he said that:

“I am proud and honored that people look to me for guidance and I take that responsibility very seriously. Because I take it so seriously, and because so many people look to me, I have a responsibility to act carefully and productively”

“I didn’t mean to say that I was burying this and that the silence was the “appropriate” action. I meant to say that I am spending every second of this day working toward appropriate action, but I think that there is little to no value in reacting immediately when it is likely that further information is on the way”

It’s been 2 days since allegations against Tom Milsom, and later former Sons of Admirals bandmate Alex Day, were made and the YouTube community is still deeply in shock.

Further accusations of sexual and emotional manipulation have been made about Day (http://nephiesworld.tumblr.com/post/79482695900/couldnt-sleep-wanted-to-rant-too-for-the-final-time), travel blogger Nephelia has released a statement alleging that he and his cousin, Sopio card co-creator Danny, traveled to her house and that it lead to things happening that she did not consent to:

“I stupidly shared a bed with Alex because he was holding my hand and I thought that was just gonna be it […] I’d never experienced anything like that before, especially when someone kind of ends up on top of you in the dark”

Furthermore, referring to Day’s cousin Danny and an un-named person, she states that:

“I had to listen to people who were 11 years apart having underage sex”

John Green

She also adds further credence to the theory that this was a long standing pattern of abuse by Day and a significant problem within the YouTube community as a whole, saying that:

“Alex texted Danny something along the lines of “which one do you want” because apparently he got first choice the last time this happened”

“when I first met Lindsey and I told her I had only been hanging out with youtubers for a few months, she told me to run away as fast as I could, and she was right. She was always right about that”

Shockingly, she says that none other than Vlogbrother John Green himself may have had suspicions about Day for years:

“John Green’s been warning girls after they have been in videos with Alex about him for the past few years”

“I used to be really good friends with Kim and she was in contact with John on skype and stuff, and after she was in a video with him (the test thingy one) John kind of gave her a warning about hanging out with him”

Day’s New Statement

Day has released a further statement (http://that-alexday.tumblr.com/post/79505198461/on-consent), apparently admitting to violating people’s lack of consent:

“Until yesterday, I thought that I had had only appropriate, though occasionally manipulative relationships with women. However, the model of consent that I followed, not that I specifically thought about it at the time - was that only “no” meant “no.” That is not what consent is.”

Confusion and False Accusations

Despite valuable contributions from people who have collated as much valid information together as they can (http://unpleasantmyles.tumblr.com/post/79455706244/heres-the-post-olga-made-about-tom-milsom-and) in many cases confusion has ruled the day, posts asking for any information at all fill the tags of many prominent YouTubers.

This has not been helped by completely fabricated accusations directed at Tyler Oakley and popular bloggers and now radio presenters Dan and Phil. Both sets have now either been recanted and removed by the author or outright disproven.

Frustration has even been directed at Vlogbrother Hank Green, his previous silence over the matter and Day’s as of then continued presence on the DFTBA website, in contrast to the almost immediate disowning of Tom Milsom after the original allegations were made against him, has prompted accusations of a lack of transparency.

In response, he said that:

“I am proud and honored that people look to me for guidance and I take that responsibility very seriously. Because I take it so seriously, and because so many people look to me, I have a responsibility to act carefully and productively”

“I didn’t mean to say that I was burying this and that the silence was the “appropriate” action. I meant to say that I am spending every second of this day working toward appropriate action, but I think that there is little to no value in reacting immediately when it is likely that further information is on the way”

In a tumblr post (http://olyusha.tumblr.com/post/79236837547/hmm-ok-well-more-lets-start-with-weird) his former girlfriend Olga has revealed that Milsom raped and otherwise sexually and emotionally abused her over the course of their six month relationship, which started when she was just 15 and progressed to physical abuse shortly after she turned 16, under the legal age of consent in Missouri. The two met at Vidcon 2010 when she was 14 and he was 21.

This is not the only post Olga has made about Milsom’s behaviour, this just being the first to spark widespread condemnation of the musician. Along with details of multiple alleged assaults they include a screen grab of a conversation between them which apparently shows Milsom acknowledging his actions, saying that “certainly there are things about our relationship that were questionable”.

In regards to coming forward now she has said that:

“it took me a long time to come to terms with the fact that it wasn’t my fault ok i blamed myself for a very long time i figured there must’ve been something wrong with me if i wasn’t enjoying it because so many girls my own age would’ve fucking killed to be where i was and i had to put it to the back of my mind for a long time because it was so shameful and i didn’t want to admit to anyone that was skeptical of our relationship that maybe i’d been wrong and stupid and now years down the road i’ve had a lot of time to think about it and i’ve learned a lot more about sexual abuse and i started to really understand and line up the events”

Reaction

Milsom’s work has already been removed from the DFTBA records online shop and from the lineup of this years Summer in the City event by former close friends Liam Dryden and Alan Lastufka, organiser of SitC and co-founder of DFTBA records respectively and who -along with other prominent YouTubers- have also made posts repudiating Milsom’s actions.

“I am making no attempt to hide the fact Tom and I were once friends. He spent a weekend at my house, we worked on numerous songs and other musical projects together back in 2009. But hearing about some of the things he’s done, and was doing back then, has hurt, and I no longer wish to make another dollar off his fame or name”

Hank Green has also made a statement regarding it, making particular mention of the fact that the two first met at VidCon, the largest annual event within the community.

“I met Olga in 2010 at VidCon. She was a very smart, very clever, very cool young woman. […] I had no inkling that they had become a couple. I am horrified and extremely disappointed in myself that I was not able to realize that this was happening and put a stop to it […] […]the more fact that it existed infuriates me…sexual relationships need to be equitable and they can’t be when people are in dramatically different life stages or when one person enters the relationship as a fan of another.”

This follows a number of other allegations against popular YouTubers, namely against musicians Eddplant, Kelly Montoya and most notably, Mike Lombardo, who was sentenced to 5 years in prison and made to register as a sex offender just 2 weeks ago.

Lombardo was made the subject of an FBI investigation after a friend of a underage girl he was grooming tipped them off to his activities and evidence was subsequently found on his phone.

Wider Problem

Much has been said about “fangirls” and the exaggerated social gap that has developed between popular producers of YouTube content and the consumers of that content since the end of the relatively egalitarian culture of the website’s beginning. This gap is particularly concerning when those consumers tend to be young and impressionable.

Examples of the power creators wield over their viewers include fairly innocuous things like asking for votes to win competitions or crowd sourcing funding for concerts.

However, there have also been incidents that led to accusations of overinflated egos, such as people crowd surfing over fans at gatherings, mismanaged events that led to serious injuries and sometimes of outright exploitation.

The question now is whether what these YouTubers are believed to have done (in Lombardo’s case convicted of) is simply an example of the wider societal rape and sexual assault problem and the repugnant actions of individuals, or, whether the attitude of superiority that exists within some sections of the YouTube community has become a far, far more serious problem.

The fact is that her age and their relationship was no great secret. She was his fan, and they met at VidCon.

There is a responsibility in that and it belongs to everyone.

awake-society:

You are not to blame for being battered or mistreated. You deserve to be safe and happy. You are not alone and there are people that can help. You can contact a helpline & the police. Look for domestic violence or sexual assault programs in your area and identify safe houses you can go to. Abuse doesn’t just occur within a relationship. It can happen in friendships, with a family member, a coworker or classmate, a boss or manager, a teacher or coach.

For information ℹ️: https://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/getting-out-of-an-abusive-relationship.htm

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