sexuallymonsterous:

How to Recognize Abuse

**Emotional Abuse of Men

**Sexual Assault of Men and Boys

**Men Can Be Victims of Abuse, Too

**Domestic Violence Against Men - Know the Signs

**Information for Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse

**Help for Battered Men

**Battered Men, Battered Husbands

**For Male Survivors of Rape and Sexual Abuse

**Male Survivors of Incest and Sexual Child Abuse

**Help for Men Who Are Being Abused

Help Lines (Phone and Text Chat)

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (or 1-800-787-3224 for TTY)

National Dating Abuse Hotline: 1-866-331-9474

National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673

National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-237-8255

Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men: 1-888-743-5754 (US and Canada)

Hopeline Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-784-2433

National Hotline for Victims of Crimes: 1-855-484-2846

National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888

Polaris Human Trafficking Text Line: Text “BEFREE” to 233733

**1in6/RAINN Chat for Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse

Support Groups

**1in6 Support Groups

Male Survivor Support Groups

Pandora’s Aquarium - Chat (includes chats specifically for men)

Pandora’s Aquarium - Forums (includes forums specifically for men)

How to Find a Shelter

Domestic Shelters Search (shelter locator with filters to find shelters specifically for male survivors)

SAFE (located in Austin, TX, but states they can help people find resources/shelters in their area)

How to Find a Therapist

**Male Survivor Therapist Directory

Mental Health Services Locator

Resources for and About the Abuse of Kids/Teens

Love is Respect Hotline: 1-866-331-9474 (Hotline for teens)

Darkness to Light Helpline (Sexual Abuse): 1-866-367-5444

Darkness to Light Text Line: Text “LIGHT” to 741741

ChildHelp USA National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453

Children of the Night Hotline (Children in Prostitution): 1-800-551-1300

National Runaway Safeline: 1-800-786-2929

Covenant House Nineline (Homeless Youth): 1-800-999-9999

Stop it Now Hotline: 1-888-773-2362 (for adults concerned about the welfare of a child)

Jennifer Ann’s Group (for teens experiencing dating violence)

Other Resource Lists 

(While I tried to include the most helpful resources I could here (i.e., resources that lend themselves to one-on-one communication, individual reading, etc.), there are plenty of other great resources, including regional resources, listed in these links. Some of the resources are specific to men and others aren’t, but they are all helpful for male survivors.)

**Male Survivor (regional, international, and online resources)

**Husband Battering: Men and Domestic Violence

**Help for Battered Men: Online Resources

**Help for Battered Men: National and International Resources

**Help for Guys: Help for Victims (some resources for men, many general resources)

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deanoru:

I’m so tired of every show that takes place in the past (wild west, medieval, pirates etc) ALWAYS having so much sexual violence towards women like writers can cry “oh it’s realism” all you want but it’s very transparent how realism only applies when you want to hurt women on screen. If we’re talking staying realistic, why doesn’t everyone have brown teeth? Or bad skin? Or dying of dysentery? Just admit y'all want an excuse to brutalize women on screen lol

This pisses me off so much. A lot of the time if you mention realism would also involve women having unshaved legs or pits, or bushy eyebrows, or syphilis, the answer is often “well that’s gross, no one wants to read about/see that” and like…. If you think that women being ugly is grotesque, but brutal depictions of rape aren’t, then I don’t really know what to say to you other than stay the fuck away from me.

soooo my favourite character in what I was reading was just raped and is now bleeding internally and broken and i’m sitting here feeling like i’ll throw up and not moving
please send me nice calming things asap

poppypicklesticks:

lulumuse:

broodingsoul:

Lupita Nyong’o wins an Oscar for portraying a real life slave, and the first thing she did was thank Patsy for her inspiration.

Jared Leto wins an Oscar for portraying a trans woman, and doesn’t mention trans women at all.

I think the point makes itself.

He did.

He actually did thank the trans community but Tumblr is so desperate to hate him they are spreading false rumours about him being a rapist.

I think that speaks for itself. 

No. That is thanking everyone in the world who has felt injustice. I don’t know about you, but I can think of plenty of cispeople who have felt injustice for being who they were.  If he can’t manage to say the word, “trans,” well then he doesn’t deserve to be acknowledged as mentioning them.

gingerhobbit-tealover:

chloerayne:

TRIGGER WARNING

This is a Scottish anti-rape PSA that is a direct response to blaming a rape victim for dressing like a slut. What do you think? Is it effective?

Never have I seen such an effective video in my life… and it’s only 30 seconds long. Definitely, 100% watch and reblog this.

Nobody asks to be raped. Ever.

Well done Scotland

tzviaariella:

So I’ve been watching people tear their hair out over the whole “can Jews be white?” thing and I just…

This is an area of huge identity confusion for me, in a way I could never really articulate before. My father is a white convert; my mother is a white-passing Ashkenazi. My birth surname is not one that screams “Jewish,” nor is my married name (my husband’s father is a WASP Gentile), and my first name is common among Gentiles, too. I’m blonde, blue-eyed, pale, and without any telltale “Jewish” physical features, and since I’m from the Midwest, my accent doesn’t fit any stereotypes, either. I am as “passing” as it is humanly possible to be.

Because of this, I’ve never felt comfortable describing myself as anything but white. My mother considers herself white (despite the fact that she’s admitted that her first thought on seeing me after I was born was relief that I was blonde because, if necessary, she could hide me—I’m sure all white mothers of white babies have that reaction, no?), so I never had language to articulate my feelings of not-quite-whiteness until I was an adult. Even now that I have the language, I can’t shake the fear that by quibbling over white vs. white-passing with regards to my situation, I would either cause offense to Jews who don’t pass to the same extent (because within the Jewish community, on intra-Jewish issues, I am white) or give asshats fodder to dismiss those Jews on the grounds of “look how ridiculous this is, even this super-fucking-white chick is trying to claim she’s not white.” I also just plain don’t have the energy to correct everyone who calls me white, because trying to explain how someone with my appearance isn’t white to people with little grounding in racial theory is…difficult. In a way, it’s easier to just accept the label and move on.

But at the same time, the label doesn’t fit. If I’m truly, 100% white, why does my mother worry about whether I can hide? Why does she react to my keeping a kosher home as if it were a harmless quirk, but to my wearing a tichel—a publicly visible proclamation of my Jewishness—or to my decision to name my son Reuven (instead of the more anglo spelling of Reuben) much more harshly, as if she’s afraid? Why do I see a marked difference in how strangers interact with me when they’re aware that I’m Jewish? Ironically, my ability to pass makes me the absolute scariest type of Jew to white Gentiles, because if someone who looks like me can “secretly” be Jewish, why, anyone they think is white could actually be an impostor!

I’m torn between not wanting to give Gentiles more ammo against Jews by calling myself white, and not wanting to give them more ammo against Jews by calling myself white-passing—all the while knowing that what I call myself doesn’t mean jack to any of them, because they’ll label me however they see fit to further their agenda. It’s complicated and confusing, and I wish there were a better label I could use that wouldn’t make me feel like I’m erasing myself, but so it stands.

*waits patiently for Uma to defenestrate me*

(Also, if you’re not Jewish and you reblog this, I will put the evil eye on you. So help me God.)

am Jewish so, keyn ayin hora please.

I understand this. All of this. So much. Despite the fact that all of my ancestry as far as anyone in my family can trace back, I look very white. Pale skin, though sallow, not rosy, a small, boring nose, very straight hair. And while my hair and eyes are dark, my lips large and full and my eyebrows are thick and heavy (all things my mother tells me mark me as Jewish), there’s a joke in the family that I inherited the “Cossack genes.”

As in, all the times the Cossacks raped the Jewish women in our family - well, look who ended up looking like them.

Hahaha. So funny. 

I recognize that I have immense privilege looking the way I do. More so even than my mother with her wavier, thicker, darker hair and her strong nose. And my father with his large, stereotypically Jewish nose and his full beard. Even more so than my siblings by the very virtue of my first name - they got the Jewish ones. I got the English one. 

But sometimes I hate it. I hate not being recognizably Jewish. I hate having to hear people make Jewish jokes because they don’t realize I’m Jewish. I hate having other Jews not recognize me and I hate being told I don’t look Jewish. And I hate having to deal with dancing around my race and ethnic identity because in the United States I’m white-

except for when I’m not.

And then I’m Jewish.

But I look white. And I don’t look Jewish. Yes, I realize there isn’t one way to look Jewish, but that doesn’t change the fact that people have pictures in their head for Jewish people and I’m not one of them. And it gets very, very lonely.

mrscalypsojackson:dancingloki:prochoicegeneration:Best postAlso, Lily Potter would have neve

mrscalypsojackson:

dancingloki:

prochoicegeneration:

Best post

Also, Lily Potter would have never wanted an abortion, because she was a financially well-off white woman starting a family in a happy marriage with a secure place at the top of wizarding society.

The question you should be asking is what if Merope Gaunt, an impoverished and uneducated single woman who escaped from a severely abusive family only to become pregnant with the unwanted child of a man who wanted nothing to do with her, had had access to an abortion and not had immense social pressure brainwashing her into carrying to term?

it got better

Although the child was very much wanted and was the result of the rape of the father (coerced via a love potion). So that example isn’t exactly the sound.

But the point stands. No person knows the destiny of the fetus in their uterus. If born, it could end up a hero or it could end up a villain. That isn’t the responsibility of the person carrying the fetus who is already alive and already attempting to live out their hopes and dreams.

Also, yeah, Neville Longbottom would have saved the day anyway.


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thepeoplesrecord:

Meet The Red Brigade: formed in November 2011 to fight back against a growing number of sexual attacks on women in the city of Lucknow, India

The male tormentor of the young women of the Madiyav slum did not spot the danger until it was too late. One moment he was taunting them with sexual suggestions and provocations; the next they had hold of his arms and legs and had hoisted him into the air.

Then the beating began. Some of the young women lightly used their fists, others took off their shoes and hit him with those. When it was over, they let him limp away to nurse his wounds, certain that he had learned an important lesson: don’t push your luck with the Red Brigade.

Named for their bright red outfits, the Red Brigade was formed in November 2011 as a self-defense group for young women suffering sexual abuse in the northern Indian city of Lucknow, 300 miles south-east of Delhi. Galvanised by the gang rape and murder of a 23-year-old medical student in Delhi last December and the nationwide protests that followed against a rising tide of rapes, they are now gaining in confidence.

From a core membership of 15, ranging in age from 11 to 25, they now have more than 100 members with a simple message for the men who have made their lives a misery: they will no longer tolerate being groped, gawped at and worse. Their activities are a lesson in empowerment.

Men who fall foul of the Red Brigade can first expect a visit and a warning. Sometimes the Red Brigade will ask the police to get involved, but if all else fails they take matters into their own hands. Their leader, 25-year-old teacher Usha Vishwakarma, has her own experience of the daily danger faced by many young women in the country. She was just 18 when a fellow teacher tried to rape her. “He grabbed me and put his hands round me and tried to open my belt and trousers,” says Usha, sitting in the bare-brick front room of her small house. “But I was saved by my jeans because they were too tight for him to open, and that gave me a chance to fight, so I kicked him in the sensitive place and pushed him down and ran out of the door.”

No one at the school took her accusations seriously, telling her to forget it and stop causing trouble. The experience left her traumatized and for two years she did nothing. But little by little her confidence came back. In 2009 she set up her own small school for local girls in an outbuilding next to her family home. Yet all around her, she says, she saw more and more young women suffering the same abuse she had faced. And it was threatening to wreck the chances of her young female students.

“Parents were telling girls to stay in their homes so there would be no incidents. They said, ‘if you go to school, boys will be troubling you, so stay home and there will be no sexual violence’,” says Vishwakarma. “But we said no, and we decided to form a group to fight for ourselves. We decided we would not just complain; we would take a lead and fight for ourselves.” They bought red kameez (shirts) and black salwar (trousers) and began to plan the fightback. “We chose red because it means danger and black for protest,” says Vishwakarma.

There is much to fight back against. “It is in the minds of men that girls are objects and it has been like that always,” says Vishwakarma. “Religion shows women as very powerless and that whoever is strong can do anything.”

They have started martial arts training so that the men do not have a physical advantage over them. Pooja, Vishwakarma’s 18-year-old sister, laughs as she recalls the reaction of the boy they grabbed in the street when his taunts became too much. “We all stopped and turned round and we surrounded him and grabbed his arms and legs and he thought it was a joke, but we were not kidding and four of us lifted him in the air and the others started to hit him with their shoes and fists,” she says.

The rough justice the Red Brigade metes out might seem extreme to western sensibilities, but many Indian women are making it clear that they are no longer prepared to put up with endemic abuse. That much is clear from the crime figures: reports of molestation in Delhi are up 590% year on year and rape reports by 147%. The rape cases have hit tourist numbers, which were down 25% in the first three months of the year – 35% fewer women are travelling to India. The Red Brigade say sexual abuse is a part of daily life for young women like them. They all have stories of abuse, attempted rapes and daily harassment. “This is what happens in India,” says 16-year-old Laxmi, one of Vishwakarma’s lieutenants. “These things happen all the time. All of us know this, so don’t let anyone say otherwise. This is why we have formed the Red Brigade.”

Seventeen-year-old Preeti Verma nods in agreement. Her family are too poor to have a toilet in the house, so she has to go out into the fields, she says. Every time she went out, the man in the neighbouring house threw stones at her to try to scare her into jumping up. “He wanted to see my body,” she says. “I told him: ‘What are you doing? You are shameless, don’t you have a mother and sister in your house?’ But he replied that his mother is for his father, his sister is for her husband and that I was for him.” She told Vishwakarma, and the man received a visit from the Red Brigade and another from the police. She has had no trouble from him since.

“We’ve caught a lot of men recently,” says 17-year-old Sufia Hashmi. “I joined up because men always used to pass comments on me and touch my body, but now we beat them the men cannot do anything and they run away. You feel powerful and you feel good.”

On the way back to the slum, the rickshaws pass a public park and for a moment these tough young women show themselves for what they really are – children forced to grow up fast. They beg and plead to stop. “Please, please,” they say, their eyes gleaming in excitement. Shrieking gleefully, they race off towards the swings, slides and roundabouts. Later they stroll back through the market, eating ice-creams, heading for their homes. The sun is low in the sky, the shadows long. The men watch sullenly as they pass. No one risks a word.

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Saw this on Al Jazeera this morning. I’m sure it’s gone around Tumblr in some form before.


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fatbodypolitics:[Text: The fact that rape threats are a thing says a lot about how rape isn’t a la

fatbodypolitics:

[Text: The fact that rape threats are a thing says a lot about how rape isn’t a lapse in self-control but often a tool to punish & control others. via @amirightfolks]

Fucking this.


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tinydragongina:

If you laugh at jokes about raping people I will laugh at my fist punching your throat because sure it’s violent and demeaning but I think it’s funny so why aren’t you laughing get off the floor and stop whining I am trying to assert that my desire to make a joke out of your traumatic experience is more important than your pain it’s called Freedom of Speech read a book.

theeafter-party:April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month!!! Thus far, my sorors and I have been wortheeafter-party:April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month!!! Thus far, my sorors and I have been wortheeafter-party:April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month!!! Thus far, my sorors and I have been wortheeafter-party:April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month!!! Thus far, my sorors and I have been wortheeafter-party:April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month!!! Thus far, my sorors and I have been wortheeafter-party:April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month!!! Thus far, my sorors and I have been wortheeafter-party:April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month!!! Thus far, my sorors and I have been wortheeafter-party:April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month!!! Thus far, my sorors and I have been wor

theeafter-party:

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month!!!

Thus far, my sorors and I have been working hard to spread the word, from our “Teal Tuesdays” (teal is the official color for the commemorative month), to sharing statistics and facts with the student body, to our whiteboard campaign. It was great to see my peers willingly join in and express themselves, as we worked to raise awareness about SAAM. :)

This is just a few of the MANY photos we have taken, posted, and shared…and from what I’ve been informed, our movement has been picked up by the Deltas and our sorors at Bethune-Cookman University, as well.

Service…gotta love it!


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juicyjacqulyn:jellobatch:themyskira:Hannah Gadsby on rape culture (x)Real shitHow to make juicyjacqulyn:jellobatch:themyskira:Hannah Gadsby on rape culture (x)Real shitHow to make juicyjacqulyn:jellobatch:themyskira:Hannah Gadsby on rape culture (x)Real shitHow to make juicyjacqulyn:jellobatch:themyskira:Hannah Gadsby on rape culture (x)Real shitHow to make juicyjacqulyn:jellobatch:themyskira:Hannah Gadsby on rape culture (x)Real shitHow to make juicyjacqulyn:jellobatch:themyskira:Hannah Gadsby on rape culture (x)Real shitHow to make juicyjacqulyn:jellobatch:themyskira:Hannah Gadsby on rape culture (x)Real shitHow to make juicyjacqulyn:jellobatch:themyskira:Hannah Gadsby on rape culture (x)Real shitHow to make

juicyjacqulyn:

jellobatch:

themyskira:

Hannah Gadsby on rape culture (x)

Real shit

How to make a joke involving rape

mock rape culture (aka bring awareness), NOT the victim

good stuff


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WHOA, they castrate rapists in the North?

veeeeeery interesting …

interesting indeeeeed …

pasylree:#safetytipsforladies: A hashtag about how tired women are of being told to do stupid, inepasylree:#safetytipsforladies: A hashtag about how tired women are of being told to do stupid, inepasylree:#safetytipsforladies: A hashtag about how tired women are of being told to do stupid, inepasylree:#safetytipsforladies: A hashtag about how tired women are of being told to do stupid, inepasylree:#safetytipsforladies: A hashtag about how tired women are of being told to do stupid, inepasylree:#safetytipsforladies: A hashtag about how tired women are of being told to do stupid, ine

pasylree:

#safetytipsforladies: A hashtag about how tired women are of being told to do stupid, ineffective, unrealistic things to avoid being raped. 

That last one.


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rosecoveredtardis:Ok, so… I found too many things about people — teens especially — only realizing

rosecoveredtardis:

Ok, so…

I found too many things about people — teens especially — only realizing that not saying no does not equal a yes once they’re told.

So I made a thing.

I’m so sorry if I did something wrong, I’m not 110% sure what I’m doing, so I’m almost scared to post this, but…

Sign here, if you’re interested.


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fatbodypolitics:[Text: The fact that rape threats are a thing says a lot about how rape isn’t a la

fatbodypolitics:

[Text: The fact that rape threats are a thing says a lot about how rape isn’t a lapse in self-control but often a tool to punish & control others. via @amirightfolks]

Fucking this.


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