i haven’t been on tumblr in a while and this is also not me coming back lmao
i just really wasn’t feeling it anymore, plenty people on here made me feel rather uncomfortable and this blog just really didn’t make me happy anymore (though this was mainly bc of my own need for people’s approval lmao)
to all my mutuals and everyone who’s been nice to me on here, thank u i love u !
little update on my life: i just turned 18 a couple months ago and i actually managed to pass all my classes! i was also diagnosed with adhd (which hasn’t actually changed all that much in my life as it’s apparently impossible to actually get it treated idk) and i’m alsoI’ve also been trying to deal with the realization that my ex was r*ping me throughout the two years of our relationship so i guess that’s also been very fun! i have decided what i wanna study though finally (film!!)
anyways, i won’t be using this blog anymore! thank u to everyone who welcomed me on here and supported me while i was here <3
1. actually, women attempt suicide more, but typically they choose less violent methods (it is theorized this is as they don’t want their family or friends to find them with their brains blown out, but more studies are needed to prove this) and therefore their suicide isn’t as successful (source). so, this is incorrect
2. studies show that this is because women outperform men academically, therefore they are more likely to seek higher education. (source). again, this is incorrect.
3. again, incorrect. gosh, this isn’t looking too good for you! studies show that statistically mothers are far more involved with children before custody battles, a reason for the ‘bias’. and, only 4% of custody cases go to court. (sourceandsource)
4. wow, this is incorrect too! i almost feel bad for you. anyways, women are actually very underrepresented in homelessness statistics, women are more likely to have children that are homeless, women are less likely to be involved in crime, etc. (source)
5. majority of studies that had this data are old and from the 20th century, new studies prove this is not the case (source). it’s getting kind of embarrassing, you know, all these things that prove you wrong ;)
6. this is the only one where you are partially correct. indeed, prostate cancer is underfunded but this is mainly because of a metric that doctors use called ‘years of life lost.’ breast cancer that is deadly mainly affects younger women, resulting in more years of life lost. (source) however deadly prostate cancer is more likely to affect older men, resulting in less years of life lost. (source) however i agree that prostate cancer is underfunded, but there is a valid reason.
gosh, i feel so bad for you :) that basically all of this :) was proved wrong :)
It’s not ’feminist bias against them’ which mean that male victims of rape and sexual assault aren’t taken seriously but that other men don’t take it seriously. Most, if not all, feminists recognise it as an issue and will respect men who come forward about their history of sexual abuse. It’s other men who harass them for it.
And let’s not forget that women are also not taken seriously too. It’s a massive societal issue which doesn’t just affect men.
I once had a guy (my dad) tell my sisters and me that whenever a girl “gets raped” it is because she either was putting herself in a bad situation or because she made bad decisions in choosing a boyfriend. This was literally about a month after my sister’s boyfriend raped her.
I once had a guy tell me that in the short story we were reading in class, the 15 year old who was kidnapped and raped by 2 grown men was actually partially at fault because of the way she dressed. People keep telling me that we should date. I’m too afraid to tell them this story to show why I won’t, because they’ll know that I still sometimes talk to him and think I’m weak for forgiving him.
There are too many people in the trek fandom who are dismissive about rape and sexual assault, especially when it comes to sexual assault of the male characters.
Like people will respond to Riker’s canonical rape on Malcor III with something about how many girls he slept with. He was coerced into having sex with the nurse so that he could escape and get back to the enterprise and there are people who act like he was just being a player or some shit. I’ve even seen people try to excuse how dismissive they are about it by saying shit like “we don’t know that he actually slept with her because he told her that aliens have sex differently so he could have done anything” As if that changes anything. You really think that it’s okay that Riker would have to come up with some fake version of sex and do it with her just to get her to not call security on him?!
I’m bringing this up now because I just read a Troiker fic where Riker was coerced into sleeping with some alien in order to establish a peace treaty and I’m pissed because pretty much everyone in the comments had the same reaction they do to his rape on Malcor III. The fic itself even framed Riker as the villain, Deanna got mad at him for “cheating” even though they weren’t together in the story and Will was just fucking raped.
Had it been Deanna in Will’s position in that fic people in the comments would have been calling Will an asshole for being mad at Deanna. Actually I don’t even think Will would have gotten mad at Deanna. I think it would have become a hurt comfort fic where Will helps Deanna deal with what just happened.
But since it was Will the story was about how Will “wasn’t faithful”, despite him and Deanna not being in an actual relationship with each other, and how Will had to earn back Deanna’s trust and forgiveness.
It’s fucking bullshit!
It’s not just an issue with Riker either.
There are countless fanfics where male characters, typically the “playboy” type characters, are raped or assaulted but it’s brushed under the rug or played off as them just being able to sleep with anyone.
And there are plenty of less direct occurrences in canon too, that are often dismissed by fans and the show writers. But 9 times out of 10 had it been one of the women in the same situation it would have been addressed in the show or at least addressed in fandom at some point.
Learning about the war crimes in Bucha. The crimes against humanity.
Genocide. This is genocide. This is ethnic cleansing.
Civilians murdered. Executed and their bodies left to rot in the streets. Women and children raped and murdered. They even shot up as many dogs as they could.
And this is just one town that’s been liberated. They say they’re going to find more as Ukrainian forces continue to retake Russian occupied areas.
Just putting this out here:
Don’t just like this. Reblog. Not for me. This isn’t about me or my blog.
This is about getting the information about what happened in Bucha and other Ukrainian towns and cities out there. It’s about spreading awareness of human rights violations in Ukraine done by Russian soldiers.
Learning about the war crimes in Bucha. The crimes against humanity.
Genocide. This is genocide. This is ethnic cleansing.
Civilians murdered. Executed and their bodies left to rot in the streets. Women and children raped and murdered. They even shot up as many dogs as they could.
And this is just one town that’s been liberated. They say they’re going to find more as Ukrainian forces continue to retake Russian occupied areas.
Just putting this out here:
Don’t just like this. Reblog. Not for me. This isn’t about me or my blog.
This is about getting the information about what happened in Bucha and other Ukrainian towns and cities out there. It’s about spreading awareness of human rights violations in Ukraine done by Russian soldiers.
Learning about the war crimes in Bucha. The crimes against humanity.
Genocide. This is genocide. This is ethnic cleansing.
Civilians murdered. Executed and their bodies left to rot in the streets. Women and children raped and murdered. They even shot up as many dogs as they could.
And this is just one town that’s been liberated. They say they’re going to find more as Ukrainian forces continue to retake Russian occupied areas.
Learning about the war crimes in Bucha. The crimes against humanity.
Genocide. This is genocide. This is ethnic cleansing.
Civilians murdered. Executed and their bodies left to rot in the streets. Women and children raped and murdered. They even shot up as many dogs as they could.
And this is just one town that’s been liberated. They say they’re going to find more as Ukrainian forces continue to retake Russian occupied areas.
Note: It’s been more than a year and I’ve come to update this fic lololol Anyways, this chapter was supposed to be the continuation of the plot that started in the previous ones, you know, with Killian realizing Rumpelstiltskin had first assaulted him long before the first Curse happened… but inspiration struck differently! *shrugs* In any case I know most of y'all are here for the non-con stuff so like, ignore the plot that’s been set up and just focus on this current chapter, hope you enjoy, bye
@killian-whump’s original piece is here, and you can read my additions from the beginning here.
Warnings: Rape, memory wipe, humiliation. Make sure to read all the tags on AO3 in case I’ve forgotten to mention anything.
Killian had to admit, though he’d been cautious with Emma making changes in the Jolly Roger, the magically installed bathroom did wonders, giving him the luxury of a modern shower in the comfort of his ship.
It would be very useful, he thought, for their honeymoon. They could sail for days and visit any place they wanted without any worries.
He smiled, entering his captain’s quarters and looking at his new suit. He was finally marrying Emma Swan, their officially shared life would start in just a couple of hours. He was only with a towel around his hips, but he thought propriety could take a break - it was his wedding day after all - so he threw himself on the bed, sighing happily and letting himself daydream for a bit.
He’d been considering Emma’s family his as well for some time now, and papers wouldn’t mean as much to him as the fact that her family was now reciprocating that feeling. Henry, and David, and Snow, even Regina… he could be part of it all, family dinners and gatherings and everything, without feeling an outsider ever again.
He welcomed the probably really stupid grin on his face and jumped up from the bed, looking at his suit. Then suddenly, he was looking at the form of Rumpelstiltskin, having transported himself into the cabin, right in front of Killian.
Killian simply huffed; he wasn’t minding being seen naked, even by Gold, but it was a vulnerability he’d rather avoid in his presence.
“If you wanted a sight of that, Crocodile, all you had to do was ask,” Killian mocked him.
Gold didn’t reply, though a small smile appeared on his lips. He just stood there, casually holding his hands together.
“You’re just gonna stand there and watch me get dressed?”
“A wedding. What a special moment in someone’s life,” Gold said, turning slightly to look at Killian’s suit.
“How would you know? You mistreated both your wives,” Killian said, setting his shoulders straight.
Gold’s exhale was audible as he scowled back at him. Killian knew this wasn’t a good time to provoke the Dark One, but he just couldn’t care less. Gold had every opportunity to kill him all this time he’d been plotting against them, why would he wait until now to do it?
Instead, Gold simply looked him up and down.
“What do you want?” Killian said.
“I want you to take that thing off.”
Killian blinked in surprise. “What?”
“I want you to take off that towel. Didn’t you say that if I wanted a sight of you, I just had to ask?”
“Get the hell out of here. Now.” He took two steps toward him, balling his fist on his side. “Get out!”
Gold simply scrunched his eyebrows, his smile not falling. “You’re not giving clear messages, captain.” He tsked. “Am I allowed to ask for it or not?”
“I said, get out!”
“Calm down, now. It’s supposed to be the happiest day of your life.”
Killian chuckled. “Nothing you could do would sully this day.”
Gold moved fast, wrapping his hand around Killian’s neck, just barely making his breathing harder. Killian grabbed his arm, to no avail.
“You of all people should know better than to say things like that. I could just kill you, right now.”
pala is still getting stuff and y’all making tag games and joking ab it ?
nasty.
yall are sick in the headddd lmfao. u get mad when ur friend ‘receives death threats’ but when ur discourse incites r@pe threats yall are silent. absolute crickets. and u cant even tell ur friend to address it or condemn it ??
FR!! a half assed apology and an unblock isnt shit. where’s the accountability? things aren’t over just because you say they are, other people are still dealing with the repercussions of your actions
I was in sixth grade my mom had just had surgery i was staying over at my friends house. At that time my best friend was a boy the same age as me. My mom never batted an eye. I was one of the guys and Proud of it. That day we had no school so a bunch of boys and i were playing until it became a truth or dare. And suddenly he was on top of me. It was the first time i truly understood The difference between boys and girls. I had pants on but it didn’t make it anymore devastating. Two days later he tried to kiss me at the movies. I declined. We were never friends again.
Two years later my mom remarried and we moved adding along with it more family members. I was ecstatic brothers. I had four sisters i was excited for the change. It was freshman year. The parents lived down stairs and everyone else upstairs. I was thirteen. He was twelve. But already a foot taller than me. Already stronger. Already proving he could do what he wanted. i didn’t know what to do. So Saying nothing i assumed it would stop. Shortly later i learned to not say anything. Even though no never worked I still said it. I hated make up but by junior year i learned how to cover bruises by myself and I still scowl at foundation and that’s something my mom doesn’t know. I had changed so much since my freshman year I didn’t even recognize myself most days. I still wonder where that girl went. I had new habits like locking every door behind me but with no avail there he was. I yelled in the shower but the parents thought we were rough housing and here i was truly realizing that Only i could help myself. I started weightlifting I threw myself into work and still no one noticed the change the monster i felt I had become. Here i was a senior. Stripped of any dignity I had every morning. I decided to join the navy to run away from it all. By graduation day I couldn’t even look at my neighborhood pool anymore. Because there he was knowing where I’d be at night. To this day i am still petrified of showers, of unlocked doors, sleeping at night, and red cars.
The last time was before i decided to go to college. I tried to shove him off. I thought about how much i had changed in the last two years not being home for any holidays anymore staying at friends houses. I slapped him so hard my hand vibrated he shoved me off the couch punching me harder than he had ever had before. And as i was gasping for air I didn’t turn back to see if he was following I left. Two nights later I came out and said everything that happened. But what I wasn’t ready for was my sister begging me to take her to get a pregnancy test. I’ve never been so sick knowing that my silence caused her pain. My silence caused her to endure the same change that i wouldn’t wish anyone ever.
Twenty years old now. And I’ve learned silence can’t save anyone. I don’t think Ill ever be that girl again. I have lost so much but. Today I have a purpose to write. A message for all those who can’t speak up. Were speaking up for you as well. Men don’t have the run anymore. And we shouldn’t ever let them have it again.
Sharing this for a friend, This story is important and unfortunately too common. I hope this gives some followers strength to speak out or know they are not alone.
Also, if you think that the only valid forms of abuse are physical ones that can leave permanent scarring, like: cigarette burns, broken bones, starvation and penetrative rape… unfollow me.
If you talk down to survivors of abuse like you think you know shit about it, unfollow me.
Also, please take a red-hot poker and shove it where the sun don’t shine.
And lookie there, I lost a follower right after making this post.
Also, if you think that the only valid forms of abuse are physical ones that can leave permanent scarring, like: cigarette burns, broken bones, starvation and penetrative rape… unfollow me.
If you talk down to survivors of abuse like you think you know shit about it, unfollow me.
Also, please take a red-hot poker and shove it where the sun don’t shine.
