#questioning
Could someone please explain the difference between bisexual, omnisexual, polysexual, and pansexual. I’m not trying to be rude just trying to figure things out.
Wanna give a big shout out to all the closeted LGBTQ+ people this pride.. You’re valid and we all love and support you.. You’re gonna make it through this. You’re gonna figure everything out. You’re gonna get out of your bad situation. And i’m so proud of you! You are strong! And beautiful! And JUST AS V A L I D! ! ! ! Don’t let anyone make you think otherwise ❤
hold on i wanna see smth. trans/nonbinary ppl rb this and put in the tags what animal u associate w ur Gender
To anyone who heard lgbt slurs this holiday, directed at them or not, I’m sorry you had to go through that. I know it feels horrible hearing your family speak like that
You are notworth less than any other person. You are amazing and beautiful and absolutely valid ❤️❤️❤️
Questions to ask instead of “Am I trans?”
Because, tbh the question itself is so hard to answer, mostly because of the way it is phrased. Same with “Am I a boy, girl, or non-binary?” Here I present you some other questions to navigate your gender questioning journey:
- Do I like to be reffered to/seen as/treated as a boy/girl/non-binary?
- Do I dislike being treated in other ways?
- What are my feelings relating my gender assigned at birth?
- What are my feelings regarding the gender I think I may be?
- Is there a certain gender you lean towards more than others? (For example, it never crossed my head that i may be unaligned non-binary. I would think i was a demigirl, then bigender, then demiboy, leaning away from girlhood and closer to boyhood with time, but I never thought I could be something other than a guy)
- One of the moments when I feel the most euphoria is when I see femenine guys. Masculine guys are too far away from me to relate. Does it feel better to see a guy who acts like you, a girl who acts like you, or a non-binary person who acts like you?
- How do you feel when you see yourself in clothes of the gender you think you may be?
- Do you not want to change your clothes back to the ones socially fitting to the gender you were assigned at birth? Do you tell yourself “just five more minutes” or something like that?
- When you see yourself in the mirror with clothes of the gender you think you may be, does that look like you, or a stranger?
- Does it look “strange” just because you’re not used to it, or is it so uncomfortable you want to take the clothes off?
- Are you scared of this “”“”“trans phase”“”“” being over? Are you scared of going back to identifying as your gender assigned at birth?
- What is the main reason why you think you may be trans? Is it related to gender roles? (Ex: liking more the clothes of the opposite gender)
- What is the main reason why you think you may not be trans? Is it related to gender roles? (Ex: liking more the clothes of your sex)
- Do you think you want to be certain gender because of the “Aesthetic”? (This could be either about the gender you think you may be or the gender you were assigned at birth)
- Can you explain why you “want” to be certain gender? Is there a logical reason?
- Would you rather get rid of your questioning by having you mind change to fit your body, or have your body change to fit your mind?
- If a magic being came to you right now and offered to give you the body that socially fits the gender you think you may be, knowing that you wont regret it, what would you say?
- Based on the evidence, what do you think is more likely? That you are cis or that you’re trans?
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It’s been over a year and a half since I last surveyed nonbinary people to get a general idea of preferences when it comes to language to describe us. In that time nonbinary genders have become more well-known in the media in the UK and the US. It can’t hurt to get a fresher picture, can it?
This time I’ll attempt to improve on the last survey by including some options that were missed out last time. As before, you will not be asked for your name, email address, specific location, legal gender, or gender assigned at birth.
Thank you,
Cassian
PS: Last time we got over 2,000 responses. That made the results really useful and valuable, and it’d be great if we could repeat that. If you would like to help these statistics be as complete as possible with minimal effort, please reblog this post and retweet this tweet.
PPS: I’d like to take this opportunity to note that this is just a Google Forms survey with no extra security. While no identifying information such as names and email addresses will be collected, I cannot be responsible for your privacy. If you have any concerns at all, please be cautious and do what you feel is necessary to be safe.
hey all! @/binderdrive on instagram is giving away a trans pride binder to any TRANS, NON-BINARY, OR QUESTIONING person if you want to enter! make sure to go to this post & read the rules! it ends 9/3/2020!
I realize that I’ve been putting pressure on myself to settle the question of whether I’m gay or bi. But I don’t actually want or need an answer, so I’ve decided to simply un-ask the question. This is not an agnostic stance. I think I coulddetermine an answer; I’m choosing not to.
I think there’s a parallel* here with people who identify primarily as nonbinary - specifically, those enbies whose answer to “Are you a man or a woman?” is just “No.” It seems to me that they have effectively un-asked the question rather than answering it.
I feel like not having an answer might get me shoehorned into the ‘questioning’ category by default, and that’s not really true. I don’t know and I’m not trying to find out. I’m just gonna roll with whoever I’m attracted to and proceed peacefully and unperturbed. no thoughts head empty.
*aparallel, not an exact 1:1 equivalence
These two asks came in very close and I’m not sure whether they’re from the same person or are two different anons. Since they are similar, I’ll try to answer them in one post.
First of all, gender is a very confusing thing. It’s normal for labels to not fit anymore or to find out that what you thought about yourself wasn’t true. It can be very upsetting, I know, but you are not a fraud or a liar because of it. You weren’t actively trying to deceive people, you just went with what you thought was right, and no one can blame you for that.
Many genderfluid people experience changes pretty often - their gender changes every few days or weeks - but it’s possible for your gender to stay the same for a longer time, enough to make one think that’s the gender they will always be, before it changes again. It’s terribly upsetting, yes. But one can’t control when or if that happens, so, again, you are not at fault for thinking you were male.
And experiencing changes in your gender doesn’t make you a fake. You can’t be a fake for not being able to control something you cannot control. It may feel like you are, I know, but you have no fault in this happening.
I don’t think you are copying your friend. Personally, I find that the idea of actively “copying” someone else’s gender is pretty far fetched. I would say it was most likely more a coincidence than something you consciously or subconsciously did. If certain pronouns make you more comfortable than others, then use them. I don’t think your friends would care if you use the same pronouns as another of them. They probably wouldn’t be angry at you if you told them you are still confused about your gender either.
As for what labels to use, I believe you could call yourself either demiboy, boyflux or nonbinary depending on how strongly you feel connected to being male. Demiboy indicates someone who is partially male and partially something else, so if you feel sometimes 100% male and sometimes 100% nonbinary maybe demiboyfluid or demiboyflux would be more accurate, although of course you could just say demiboy for short. Boyflux would mean the intensity with which you feel male changes, it usually indicates someone who goes between male and agender so if you don’t feel agender it could get confusing to people. Nonbinary can cover a lot of ground as long as you are not always only 100% one binary gender, so it could encompass also your experience. If you feel a strong connection to being male, you could try looking into solarian as a label.
I can also suggest you genderfaun, a subset of genderfluid where one never experiences female or feminine genders.
A note: ftm is considered outdated terminology by some, so if you wish to use it for yourself go on, but be aware some people are uncomfortable with it. This being said, if you believe you would be happier transitioning or presenting yourself as transmasculine, then you shouldn’t feel restrained by the fact you are not always a man. Just do what feels the best to you, and good luck!
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I see us get a lot of questions from people specifically worried they’re too feminine to be non-binary but almost none from people worried they’re too masculine. There’s a reason for that y'all and I think we should examine it and work really hard to reject it.
Our conception of “androgynous” has for far too long been “mostly masculine with a dash of feminine” and that’s just not true. Long hair and unbound chests are not less androgynous. A dress is not less androgynous. The gender presentation of these things come from the wearer, not the style.
I wear my unbound chest in a way that I feel is pretty androgynous. Sure, it’s feminine… But it would never be “girly.” That comes from how I cary myself within my feminity.
We should all let go of this conception of the pinnacle of androgynous style being a feminine take on masculine style and accept the possibility for a masculine take on feminine style. And then after that, make room for an androgynous that isn’t a mix of masculine and feminine, but rather is distinctly it’s own thing. but that’s radical for now. First, we gotta focus on letting feminine ALSO be androgynous.
Thank you for coming to my talk today
Mod Zoe Leo
when someone comes out to you, remember that their coming out is not about you and they’re coming out for them. support them, but don’t make their coming out about yourself.
If you flux or flow in you gender or orientation, if you’re not sure if you do, if it confuses and frustrates you, here’s a flower to improve your day , and I want you to know you are perfect exactly as you are, and deserve to be happy in that.
i mean a huge part of lgbt culture is the whole “it’s not a phase” and “i’m not confused" thing but that’s just not really true y'know?
like here’s to the people that have gone through countless labels, and still can’t find one that fits
here’s to the people that have declared a label, but then realized that label might not be accurate
here’s to the people that have to come out 1,000 times because their identity is constantly changing
here’s to the people who are confused, and have gone through phases. you’re real and you’re valid.i love all of you. you don’t have to have everything figured out to be lgbt
your daily affirmation that your sexuality is valid even if you’re not sure of it yet as well as one (1) gentle hug to shield you from people who would have you think otherwise
Additional affirmation that your sexuality’s validity doesn’t depend on the number of people you come out to-you can choose to never come out and that will never change a single thing about who you are
Further craving validation and acceptance from people who are never going to give it to you and struggling with that does not invalidate your sexuality either.
“Idyll”, an extremely happy, peaceful, or picturesque period or situation, typically an idealized or unsustainable one.
Based on Carl Larrson’s “Idyll” (1901).
This idea was previously for entering “Classics… but Make it Gay” zine project, but I didn’t get in; which that is okay! Since at that around time suddenly got busy.
But I’ve been drawing with similar themes and ideas for long time now so I’m gonna draw my ocs from webcomic Veil and Liang with it! And not gonna lie, this is one of arts that I’m proud of the most. //tears
Also, I finally use Clip Studio Paint fully!
Oh and since we’re in June month, Happy Pride month!
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