I’m coming out to all my teachers today and honesty. They’re all super nice. My gym teacher even told me I could change in the bathrooms rather than a locker room!
This list is from the spreadsheet for the 2016 worldwide results, where there were 3055 useable responses, and 179 unique identity words or phrases entered.
Most commonly entered at the top, with number of times entered and percentage in brackets.
Nonbinary (1975, 65%)
Genderqueer (1243, 41%)
Trans (1063, 35%)
Agender (944, 31%)
Transgender (943, 31%)
Fluid gender/genderfluid (942, 31%)
Enby (477, 16%)
Demigender (452, 15%)
Transmasculine (434, 14%)
Neutral (420, 14%)
Questioning or unknown (397, 13%)
Androgyne (380, 12%)
Woman (or girl if you are younger) (363, 12%)
Trans* (272, 9%)
None/I do not describe my gender (259, 8%)
Man (or boy if you are younger) (232, 8%)
Neutrois (207, 7%)
Transfeminine (200, 7%)
Bigender (123, 4%)
Third gender (84, 3%)
Intergender (47, 2%)
Cisgender (26, 1%)
Genderflux (25, 1%)
genderless (17, 1%)
Femme (14, 0%, so everything below here is 0%)
maverique (12)
gendervoid, voidgender, void (8)
gender non-conforming (8)
trigender (7)
two-spirit (7)
Polygender (7)
Agenderflux (6)
transfeminine (6)
Queer (6)
Butch (5)
gendervague (5)
aporagender (5)
Transsexual (5)
gender variant (4)
human/person (4)
genderfuck(ed) (4)
apogender (4)
Male (4)
boy (adult) (4)
femme nb, nb femme, etc. (3)
greygender (3)
pangender (3)
masculine of centre (3)
Mixed gender (2)
Demiagender (2)
non-gendered (2)
genderpunk (2)
boi (2)
Fluid agender/agenderfluid (2)
Female (2)
genderweird (2)
androgynous (specifically not androgyne) (2)
genderful (2)
Transwoman (2)
confused (2)
alexigender (2)
geek (2)
Transman (1)
null / no gender (1)
Other (1)
guy (1)
intersex(ed) (1)
FTM/female to male (1)
post-gender (1)
aliagender (1)
multi-gender(ed) (1)
fairy or faery (1)
transfemale (1)
videgender (1)
tomboy (1)
Mutogender (1)
plural (1)
ilyagender (1)
ambigender (1)
librafeminine (1)
witch (1)
FTMTX (1)
genderfree (1)
hybrid (1)
trans boi (1)
androgynous woman (1)
fluid centering just androgynous of female (1)
androgynous genderqueer transwoman (1)
nonbinary guy (1)
culturally female (1)
voidboy (1)
feminine genderflux (1)
fluidflux (1)
libramasculine (1)
nonbinary, but woman aligned (1)
woman-aligned (1)
blank (1)
bakla (1)
ladyboy (1)
a Literal Mess (1)
grey-agender boy (1)
Star Trek extra (1)
transqueer (1)
nonbinary boy (1)
neuter (1)
egogender (1)
nondual (1)
nerd (1)
boyflux (1)
demifluid (1)
kid (1)
not cisgender (1)
rejects gender (1)
demifemme (1)
androfem (1)
virgender (1)
eldrigender (1)
nb (1)
female fiction (1)
herm (1)
paragender (1)
nonbinary gendermeh (1)
magiboy (1)
genderchill (1)
pretty boy (1)
dandy (1)
bordergender (1)
demimasculine (1)
gender related to “girl” (1)
well, ‘woman’ seems simplest, let’s just go with that (1)
Non-binary bi people who love other non-binary people aren’t talked about enough. Whether you like some non-binary people in addition to binary genders, or just want to date other non-binaries, you’re just as bi as anyone else. Bi doesn’t need to be binary. Enbian nbs deserve far more love.
this is sort of vague because I’m not sure if I can make it make sense but I wish more 101 nonbinary activist materials focused less on just “gender isn’t binary” and more on “the fact that gender is a social construct means it is constructed differently in different cultures and is in a constant state of change like everything else about a culture”
like…it’s not just about updating the gender system to recognize non-binary genders but also about recognizing that the social construction of gender is extremely responsive to time/place and this is true even for “man” and “woman” which means that there’s no reason to invalidate anyone’s expression or feelings about their gender, no matter what gender it is or how familiar it is to you
a further thought: this is also why I don’t think gender abolition is a useful goal, because, as Rikki Anne Wilchins put it, gender is primarily a system for creating meanings, and if you actually tried to totally erase the concept of any gender at all from the world, that would involve erasing a huge amount of cultural meaning, probably without actually fixing inequality tbh
on the other hand, if you acknowledge that there are as many gender systems as there are cultures, and that there are probably as many variations on even the normative genders as there are people in that culture who belong to them, then gender essentialism loses the vast majority of its power because if the meaning of gender changes across cultures (even across relatively small cultural shifts), then that means they’re not inherent moral truths of the universe, they’re ways of performing particular cultural meanings
and this makes non-binary genders, and nonnormative gender expressions, no less concrete than binary genders with normative expressions, not by saying “actually a non-binary gender is a concrete object with xyz characteristics” but by saying “all genders are arbitrary”, which creates room for essentially infinite space and self-determination
I have no idea if any of this makes sense, I just visualize, like, a garden
There’s differing opinions on the benefit of having the option to choose non-binary or intersex identifiers on your identification documents (driver license, birth certificate, etc).
But this is a reminder that it’s totally fine if you are excited to change your documents! You do not contribute to your own oppression by seeking an avenue that is validating your identity.
I am a non-binary person. There’s several reasons why.
1. Even if my society achieves gender equality, we‘ll still place expectations on people for their gender. I don’t want to live under the expectations of either gender. I’ve tried male and female identities online over the years and don’t enjoy either.
2. Going off on that last point, it feel like I’m limiting myself by picking a role. I’ve lived my life being told I could/couldn’t do things because of my gender, or the other gender being excused for their actions due to their gender.
3. It’s really affected my interactions around people. Maybe it’s just cuz I grew up in romance-obsessed North America, but I’ve found myself in situations where, when people assume my gender, they flirt and try to ask me for my number or a date.
4. I honestly don’t really care for gender. I actually find it irritating when people bring it up by calling me a gendered name or describe my body with gendered terms. It’s one of the reasons I bury myself in large shirts and sweaters. Being called a gendered name is like someone constantly calling you by the wrong name. It gets awkward fast and irritating after a few too many times.
5. Speaking of clothes, I can’t shop in just one gendered aisle. I have broad shoulders and wide feet, so I get shirts, socks, and shoes in the male department. I can fit into pants from both aisles due to my broad hips, and I like some of the designs on clothes in the gal’s aisles. I’ve felt people staring at me when I shop in the ‘wrong’ gendered aisle and had clerks asking me if i was lost. Clothes shopping needs to be done in a stealthy way or it’s a minefield.
6. I always feel like I have something to hide. I hide this body because if I wear more form-fitting clothes, people will assume my gender and treat me as that gender, which gets awkward quickly. So I avoid most people. I can’t live as who I really am. Like I have a mask stuck to me that I’m trying to take off, but I can’t unless I go online.
7. When I picture myself in my mind (my inner self), it’s as a non-gendered person. No notable curves or angles, unisex teal and goldenrod clothing like a shirt or hoodie, and simple facial features.
8. Furthermore, I’ve struggled to take care of myself for a lot of my life. At some point during my teenage years, I realized this isn’t a body I really care about. I thought it was just some kind of typical teen anxiety, but none of the usual stories on teens and changing bodies were relatable. There was this undefinable part of me for years that Girl Power/Boys Rule never fulfilled.
9. At some point, I’ve realized that it was always *someone else* telling me who I was, what gender I am, and what that means. Sometimes I’d wonder “If I had the chance to answer that question, what would I say?” That question was unanswered for awhile until I learned more about Queer identities during university.
10. When I started getting onto social media, making accounts, and picking usernames, I realized that what felt like for the first time, I could say who I was and people would respect it. That’s when I started realizing I hated that Pick Your Gender question on account profiles and avoided them when I could. I only answered that question if there was a third option.
I’m seeking out transitioning surgery because I’m sure that by de-gendering my body, I‘ll feel more comfortable with social interaction. People won’t assume my gender (and subconsciously push gendered expectations onto me). When they ask, I get to say what I am, so I’ll feel like I have a part in the conversation and it won’t feel awkward.
I’ll feel like my Inner Self and Outer Self are unified, so I can live more authentically. I can shop with more confidence, socialize without feeling like I have something to hide, and better communicate what people should or shouldn’t expect of me.
- My Cis friends who have only ever gone by one set of pronouns
- Myself
- Fictional characters (majority of these being again cis)
- My own OCS that i literally decided the gender of (again, cis characters)
- Bonus: I have messed up the names of my cis friends I’ve known for years just by slip ups too, so this goes for names as well as pronouns
Essentially, Misgendering sucks so bad…but sometimes the brain is weird, it doesn’t always mean your friends etc don’t see you as the gender you are. You’re valid and wonderful and I hope you have a good day, and if not, know that things get better! - your local ace arospec enby
(PSA: this is not a post to excuse misgendering or not putting in the effort for your trans friends, and you should always appologise and correct! - this is for trans people not you)
