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10 Lessons You Wish They’d Taught In School
Lessons from Daddy:
How to stay “Daddy” when your boy is the top.
This lesson is simple, in my opinion, because it has more to do with a misconception about power being balanced in favor of the top rather than the bottom. Being in ‘control’ does not mean being active nor does being submissive mean being passive. A lot of these issues get mixed up together because there are some really toxic images of ‘being a man’, where you fuck, get blown, and are this borderline (or worse) neglectful or abusive person. In this situation none of these things are appropriate. A Daddy is a role, as a son is a role, one both choose to take and help to mutually define together. It “normally” (read: in common understanding) means that the Daddy is older, and the son younger, that Daddy is fully Dominant and the son is fully submissive, but those things are ENTIRELY negotiable as there are mixed age couples where the roles are not in that way (the younger is the ‘dominant’ partner and the older is the submissive) and many switch or reversed roles from the ‘standard’ idea of what a Dad/son relationship is. There are too many variations to cover, but all of them are valid so long as they are mutual in nature and shared maturely together. If you are a Daddy who is at least versatile, if not fully a bottom, and find it hard to feel like a “Daddy” in that position so to speak, then there are a few things you can do to change that.1: Stay in control.
This means being active, not passive, while bottoming for your son. You can do this by using positions where you maintain control over the action yourself, or if that isn’t possible, you use verbal cues and guidance to keep that control element. It is truly not difficult to be in control as a bottom, no more difficult than as a top. You need self control, clear communication and a steady hand in guiding his efforts and his learning. Daddy is the mentor teaching his boy. The rest is all variations of flavor when it comes to how Dominant and submissive you are to each other. If you are a sub daddy these things won’t’ normally apply to you but as a boy is generally less experienced he will still need to learn proper skill and that may mean setting standard ‘roles’ a side in part for both of you so he can improve and become a great top.
2: Teach him how to do it.
That means teaching self control while demonstrating it yourself, in both your tempo and muscle control keeping the action hot but making it last. Talk him through the process the first time, remind him in later encounters and use your own skill to be the best bottom for your boy while teaching HIM to be the best top for you. Show him the spectrum from passive bottom to active bottom and teach him what cues to pay attention for to know that he’s on target without being told. Through teaching you keep that “Daddy-ness” that’s part of what he craves. Use of cues and, in general, relying on that level of obedience he has to tell him to stop, control his tempo and properly guide him from being an amateur to a master in the art of fucking his Daddy. The goal is to help him reach a level of skill and understanding that means you can relax and let him do the work as you’ve taught him to just like any other sexual activity. Remember your Role and help him maintain his role while being able be yourselves sexually.
A lot of boys learn from porn, and porn is a BAD teacher when it comes to learning how to top. Porn sex is often violent, aggressive and careless, and while that can be exciting LATER on during sex, it shouldn’t start that way as its disrespectful to the bottom in the situation. Teach him to be patient, to control his movements, to go slow when you tell him, fast when you tell him, and most of all to stay still when you say. Sometimes the best way is to show him, but if he is willing to learn you can easily teach him to be the greatest kind of top: the kind who knows how to please his bottom (especially when its his daddy).
3: Knowing what positions to use.
This is another area of training for a boy and so the choices of position should remain with Daddy initially. It’s still your job to teach him self control and the skills you know a good top should have. Wild abandon is great, but your son needs to become an expert top and that means everything from rimming, to fingering to choosing the right position to have sex in. It’s very important to demonstrate various positions and explain why and how they feel how they do but equally important is how useful thy are to a top. Some positions are far better for fingering and rimming than for penetration and vice versa. Good positions can be used for all three, but being caught in a rut where only one position is used leads to boredom and that’s never good.
It’s also important to teach him HOW to change position when he needs to and when his bottom needs to. Once he’s learned the value of different positions for his pleasure and his Daddy’s then when you are comfortable with his skill, patience and self control you will want to let him take the lead in choices to help him establish greater confidence in his skill as a top but don’t forget you can use verbal and touch based cues to keep control of the action, even when he is doing it all himself.He’s your boy so your reinforcement and expressed pleasure are important to his own.
Closing thoughts:
The thing about this idea, that of the bottom daddy, is that it confuses issues, mixes up all kinds of machismo and masculine ideas up and in general wind up limiting potential pleasure that can be shared between a Daddy and his boy. The best thing you can do is talk about things together, unplug the bullshit that makes you 'less a man’ for bottoming, and accept that being a man is exactly why you two are fucking one another. If you want to internalize homophobia and turn your life into a toxic mess of misplaced ideals, go right ahead, but it won’t help you ever have a good sex life, just a short one. If you are in bed with a man, you are in bed with that man for a reason, namely that you want to have sex with him. If he is going to get fucked by you, respect that he has chosen to, and don’t confuse being a man with being on top, because that is not the case. “Man” is an image, male is a gender, bottom is a position and Daddy is a role. They can all coincide without being reduced down into little boxes. As a Daddy who bottoms for his boy when the need arises, I know full well how to stay 'Daddy’ while my boy is on 'top’.
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…yet we still do! it’s sad really but it can be overcome! There are so many great things about being single! Here’s 10 of them:
- you can do whatever you want
- you can be as crazy and weird as you want
- you don’t have to be dressed up & put make-up on all the time!
- being able to enjoy and hang out with your friends more often
- being able to focus on your career
- nothing’s tying you down so you can move/relocate anywhere you want to
- You can go out and flirt as much as your heart desires without having to worry ;)
- You don’t have to worry if he will or won’t call.
- No more arguments about things you can’t explain - stress free life!
- The best reason for being single is: Vibrators don’t talk back, you can turn them off and on, and they don’t stop until they are through serving their purpose.
haha the last one is quite a nice reason! :) My personal favourite is being able to go wherever I want and doing whatever I please - I love being spontaneous…when I’m not being lazy that is! xD
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在銅版體習字課中，讓同學們認識的第一罐墨水就是胡桃墨水，以它作為衡量墨水濃稠度、粗細表現的標準。
現在又多了新選擇囉！水占文房新出的沾水筆專用墨水，多了神秘藍、酒紅、森林綠、午夜黑四種顏色，低飽和度的復古色，優雅不刺眼。
墨水瓶是寬口瓶，無論你用的是直桿還是斜桿沾水筆，都能直接沾取墨水書寫。
⚠️這系列的墨水是點尖沾水筆專用，不適用於平尖沾水筆，也不可以灌入鋼筆裡。它就是專門用來書寫銅版體、史賓賽體、摩登體用的！
至於推不推薦購買呢！
如果你：
＊沒有接觸過英文書法。
＊沒有用過胡桃墨水。
＊不知道書寫花體字該用濃稠度怎樣的墨水。
＊不知道太稀、太稠的墨水寫出來的筆畫長怎樣。
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那麼就買吧！
如果你：
＊用的是平尖沾水筆。
＊想寫哥德體、義大利體、安修爾體….等平尖字體。
＊已經用過胡桃墨水了。
＊家裡已經有海量的鐵膽墨水、寫樂、白金、百利金、水人墨水。
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那錢就省下來吧！
▼水占文房沾水筆專用墨水賣場
▼下載字帖/我的線上課程/購買文具紙品
上一篇文章提到初學者習字常犯的第一個錯誤就是寫在白紙上，這篇就介紹幾個格線紙產生器，可以自己調整尺寸、角度，甚至還可以印出花樣很特別的格線紙當作日常筆記用喔～
Guideline Generator
我比較了很多格線紙產生器的網站，這一個對初學者來說最簡單易用！有英文書法、橫線、方格、點點四種格線紙產生器，需要特別注意的是這個網站要先註冊，不然下載下來的格線紙會有浮水印。
不懂英文書法的格線紙數值該怎麼設定也沒關係。
左邊「select a tamplate」的選單選擇你想要的英文書法種類：由上至下是銅版體、史賓賽體、義大利體。
右邊選擇你的紙張尺寸，按Downlaod印出來即可。
另外叮嚀一下，這裡的義大利體是點尖用的，並非平尖鋼筆用的格線紙，所以如果你用的是麥克筆、百樂藝術鋼筆、寫樂藝術鋼筆之類的，並不適用於這類格線紙。
allunderone格線紙產生器
上一款的格線紙產生器可以設定的數值有限，沒辦法設定哥德體、義大利體用的格線紙，這款allunderone就補足了這點。
這款格線紙選項也不會太少(比如有些產生器就沒有斜線這個選項)，可以在產生PDF前先預覽也是滿方便的。產生器是英文的，這裡把選項翻成中文給大家看：
Icompetech
如果想要自己印稿紙、筆記本、習字紙等，Icompetech這個網站有超多產生器可以用，每一款都可以調整紙張尺寸、格子大小還有線條顏色！注意線條粗細如果細於0.25，有可能會印不清楚。
我把產生器的數值選項翻譯成中文，大家根據自己的需要設定：
以上！祝你們練字愉快！
字帖使用規則：
＊僅供在家自學，請勿公開、複製、營利、上傳至其他空間。
＊轉載請附出處。
此篇文章正在編輯中
先認識字體和工具
下載字帖
初心者常見錯誤
我的課程
台北班最後一梯結束囉！同學們也都寫得有模有樣了
今天簡單介紹一下能夠用來書寫銅版體的五種工具！
沾水筆
- 價格：約在NT.300~2000左右。
- 紙：需搭配鋼筆專用紙
- 墨：建議搭配胡桃墨水、鐵膽墨水、較稠的鋼筆墨水使用、含膠量較低的水彩也還OK。
沾水筆是書寫銅版體最合適、專業的工具，若紙筆墨搭配得宜，可以寫出纖如髮絲的細線，寫出來的字體格外精緻。鋼筆不能用的顏料，沾水筆都可以用。
沾水筆尖是拋棄式的，一旦生鏽、彈性疲乏便得更換，但筆尖不貴，45~150元不等。
在使用上有許多眉眉角角，若書寫角度不對，會出墨不順或有很強烈的刮紙感，初學者需要花時間學習和適應如何使用。
彈尖鋼筆
- 價格：一千至四萬都有，個人覺得初學者沒必要買到萬元以上的彈尖鋼筆。
- 紙：需搭配鋼筆專用紙
- 墨：需搭配流動性強、黏度低的鋼筆墨水。
相較於沾水筆寫字會有刮紙感，彈尖鋼筆筆尖有銥點，滑溜好寫，但相對的無法從刮紙感或墨流表現得知自己書寫方式是對是錯，書寫角度不當或施力不當，容易把筆尖寫壞。
如圖所示，大部份的彈尖鋼筆寫出來的線條沒辦法像沾水筆一般細若游絲、邊角銳利。若對線條細緻程度有要求，通常會請專人改尖或研尖。
鉛筆
- 價格：十元至九十元不等。
- 紙：雜牌紙就能寫。
初學者尚未熟悉沾水筆時，可以先用鉛筆熟悉字體結構。搭配寫字墊+控制下筆輕重，一樣可以練銅版體。
原子筆
- 價格：NT.25~40不等。
- 紙：雜牌紙就能寫。
目前台灣買得到的1.6mmBIC原子筆或1.6mm百樂舒寫筆都可以用來練字。
缺點是筆尖較滑不大容易控制，加上原子筆三不五時會有「墨屎」。
科學毛筆
- 價格：NT. 35~55不等。
- 紙：雜牌只紙就能寫。
如果說寫字追求粗線要非~常~粗~，這樣用力壓沾水筆或鋼筆容易導致金屬疲勞，不如改成科學毛筆。
但相對的筆尖沒有金屬支撐，書寫細線時很考驗手的穩定度！
台北班寫字課結束囉！ 接下來要去台中和高雄啦！
課堂上我會常常糾正同學握筆和擺放紙張的角度，是有非常重要的理由的！
因為嬌貴的沾水筆、彈尖鋼筆，若書寫方式不當，很快就會錯位、金屬疲勞、損傷筆尖，你心痛我也心痛啊
所以同學們切記啊！切記：
* 只有沾水筆尖、彈性尖鋼筆可以劈叉寫出有粗細變化的線條，普通鋼筆這麼使勁壓會壞掉的。
* 書寫時左右兩片筆尖前後一致、均勻貼在紙面，不可有其中一邊在紙上拖拉，否則非常容易使筆尖錯位受損。
* 筆尖中縫的角度要和字體斜度一致，否則筆尖不容易劈開、寫字不順有強烈刮紙感，且會損害筆尖。
* 日常練習銅版體，影線其實1.5mm就夠粗了，壓到3mm甚至5mm容易讓筆尖金屬疲勞、損傷筆尖。
書寫方法對，鋼筆用一輩子，書寫方法錯，鋼筆英年早逝！
書寫歌德體、義大利體常用的英文書法的工具， 圖片由上至下分別是：
羽毛筆
用鵝毛加熱、脫脂後，將羽管削成的書法筆，你可以買現成的，當然也可以自製。
羽毛筆要沾墨水書寫，筆尖有彈性但控墨難度較高，所以今日較少看到有人使用，好玩自己做一支可以，但不推薦初學者用羽毛筆當作開始習字的工具。
羽毛沾水筆
沾水筆的一種，照片中是J.herbin的羽毛沾水筆，你在誠品買得到的羽毛筆通常就長這樣，羽毛只是裝飾，實際上握位和筆尖都是用金屬製成，需要沾墨水書寫。
沾水筆的筆尖是拋棄式的，不過有些品牌的沾水筆筆尖和筆桿是焊死的，通常焊死的筆尖都有鍍膜處理，以防鏽蝕。
附帶一提，家裡有貓的話使用這種逗貓筆寫字可能會永無寧日。
沾水筆
筆桿和筆尖是分開的兩個部件，市售筆桿有木頭製、壓克力製、塑膠製、鋁製的，使用時要另外購買金屬筆尖插上去使用。
金屬筆尖價格便宜，40元～150元不等，是拋棄式的，用久了會生鏽需要汰換，但這樣的另一個好處是可以嘗試多種筆尖。
平尖鋼筆/藝術鋼筆
是鋼筆的一種，和一般鋼筆的差別在尖端是平的，所以可以寫出粗粗的線條。
不用沾墨，所以比沾水筆還要方便，寫感也更滑順，搭配鋼筆墨水也可以寫出有墨韻之美的英文字。
照片中是百樂藝術鋼筆(百樂平行筆)。
書法麥克筆
上述的沾水筆、鋼筆都會需要用到墨水，在紙質上比較有要求，不然會暈開。
書法麥克筆的好處就是開蓋即用，不需要麻煩沾墨水或灌墨水，書寫上也不怎麼挑紙，大部分的紙張都可以書寫，加上價格便宜，很適合沒有接觸過英文書法的朋友嘗試。
至於點尖、彈性尖的工具和字體，那就是另一個世界啦！改日再和大家分享囉！
關於用原子筆練花體字。
粗一點的原子筆，書寫時加入輕重變化，可以隨時隨地寫出銅版體、摩登體這類有粗細變化的字體。
但原子筆也有它的缺點，顏色不夠黝黑、髮絲線易斷不夠細膩、寫久了會積墨屎……總歸來說寫出來的字和沾水筆相比，真是少了好幾分細膩。
說歸這麼說，逛書局時還是會小期待一下，然後亂花錢。今天挖到一款中性筆，算是解決了原子筆上述的老問題，雖然不能取代鋼筆和沾水筆，但寫起字來終於不那麼刺眼了，也是今日小確幸。
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