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Since some cultures recognize circumcision as a coming of age ritual, I’m wondering if they will cover the subject. I’m approaching it with optimism. For those who don’t know. I’ll state why this documentary should have circumcision discussed in it.

These are the cultural reasons circumcision happens

1.The parents want it done, which brings up the issue of autonomy. If the child can’t make their own decisions, the parents do what is best. There are laws stating FGM (Type I - III) are illegal. Type Ia on this chart. But for boys, the role of choice and autonomy remains unjustified. Feel free to read this article on FGM and note the cultural comparisons. The rest of the reasons are underneath this overarching theme of autonomy and choice.

2.The father was circumcised. AKA previous male bodies define their experience as a man to not include a foreskin. They then reinforce their understanding of gender roles onto the child, and the costume doesn’t fit with a foreskin involved. 

3.He needs to match his peers. Masculinity has reinforced that “boys will be boys” and that includes lashing out, and being agressive on people or ideas they don’t understand. This creates fear. Fear that a boy’s body will be shamed by others. 

Other culture problems would be institutionalized power, but that would be challenging to discuss in this case.

The verdict: this documentary could reinforce that circumcision is part of our culturally constructed definition of masculinity along the way. Or it could not talk about this at all, and resolve some problems in the way of discussing cross gender body autonomy.

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I love that this shows both sides, how society is ingrained to see women as baby-makers and men as walking wallets who’s only worth is if they make good cash. Both are equally demeaning and limiting in different ways. 


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callmeprincesatonight:

Gender roles were created based off of biological needs. Women birth the child, women stay home with the baby. Men are physically stronger, men protect and provide. My gosh, it’s so simple yet this generation loves to complicate things. You don’t have to vigorously follow these roles to perfection either. Of course some gender roles are ridiculous, but the core of it makes a lot of sense. Gender roles aren’t just about the individual, they help the child as well. To me, these roles are about sacrifice, and submission to nature. Everything that the ego isn’t.

Will not explain. Those who get it, get it.

Just thought of asking you to stop assuming every gender non conforming person must be trans

Assuming every skinny person with long hair and a suit and tie is enby is not really better that assuming women must wear dresses and men pants; people can look like anything, there are femme boys and butch women (cis and trans) and enbies of any presentation, look a someone like Xiran Jay Zhao, very femme still non binary.

If you’re gonna be asking pronouns, ask every one, not the just the people who don’t look gender enough for you

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Thinking about that time some woman tried to convince me that vests are masculine and are for men and she used “the Spanish word for vests is masculine” as “proof” and I came right back like “The Spanish word for dressis masculine” and the conversation ended

(she didn’t even speak Spanish lmao)

I’ve got to find these online. Best wedding gift I can think of.

I’ve got to find these online. Best wedding gift I can think of.


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sexistfacebookdudes:Posts like this for some reason make me angrier than “fuck you slut” ones. Get

sexistfacebookdudes:

Posts like this for some reason make me angrier than “fuck you slut” ones.

Get your carefully written fucking mainsplaining out of here you self righteous douchebag.

Tim Urban: https://www.facebook.com/TUrbanAI9/posts/10152744953850214

If I’m reading this correctly, I think the message is that if any of you men feel the urge to hold a door for a feminist, check your bigoted courtesy and call her a slut instead. She will likely find it less offensive.


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By Allison Nobles on January 25, 2018

Originally Posted at TSP Discoveries

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In the United States we tend to think children develop sexuality in adolescence, but new researchbyHeidi Gansen shows that children learn the rules and beliefs associated with romantic relationships and sexuality much earlier.

Gansen spent over 400 hours in nine different classrooms in three Michigan preschools. She observed behavior from teachers and students during daytime classroom hours and concluded that children learn — via teachers’ practices — that heterosexual relationships are normal and that boys and girls have very different roles to play in them.

In some classrooms, teachers actively encouraged “crushes” and kissing between boys and girls. Teachers assumed that any form of affection between opposite gender children was romantically-motivated and these teachers talked about the children as if they were in a romantic relationship, calling them “boyfriend/girlfriend.” On the other hand, the same teachers interpreted affection between children of the same gender as friendly, but not romantic. Children reproduced these beliefs when they played “house” in these classrooms. Rarely did children ever suggest that girls played the role of “dad” or boys played the role of “mom.” If they did, other children would propose a character they deemed more gender-appropriate like a sibling or a cousin.

Preschoolers also learned that boys have power over girls’ bodies in the classroom. In one case, teachers witnessed a boy kiss a girl on the cheek without permission. While teachers in some schools enforced what the author calls “kissing consent” rules, the teachers in this school interpreted the kiss as “sweet” and as the result of a harmless crush. Teachers also did not police boys’ sexual behaviors as actively as girls’ behaviors. For instance, when girls pulled their pants down teachers disciplined them, while teachers often ignored the same behavior from boys. Thus, children learned that rules for romance also differ by gender.

Allison Nobles is a PhD candidate in sociology at the University of Minnesota and Graduate Editor at The Society Pages. Her research primarily focuses on sexuality and gender, and their intersections with race, immigration, and law.

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Let me set the scene…

Imagine having a girlfriend that loves you. She is a financially independent woman, and she has her own place; she also manages and owns several properties around the city. Your lady love is also a creative mind who has been writing and developing a book SERIES and has an editor that she’s working with because she’s so bad ass.

SO, then she decides she loves you soooo much she moves in with you, and automatically offers half of all rent and bills without a single qualm; she just doubled your money. Great. She also without hesitation or resentment, takes on more household chores and cooking (an unpaid job, see the word homemaker in the dictionary) since she’s home more, yet still has multiple properties to manager and being a full time writer…

Now imagine telling her she doesn’t do enough work and fighting with her as if you have the right, and then imagine her having such a good head on her shoulders, that she decides to hold off and then explain how she feels and gives you another chance to talk after that. You then take that opportunity to tell her your jealous of all the legitimate work she does from home and her lowering your bills by half, and tell her to get a part time menial job to make yourself feel better!!!

Imagine being such A DUMB FUCK

God, Reddit is a trip. I take stuff with a grain of salt, but I think this one is true because, yeahh.. it just seems hella relatable and I’ve supported people in the past that treated me like shit.

Instead of bidding his time at work and working on a promotion or gathering references to make looking for another job easier he took his frustrations out on his gf, who paid half the bills. He didn’t know how good he had it, in terms of girlfriends and having a job when so many were laid off.

God you have no idea how glad I am to read that she dumped this fucking idiot man

My ex took his job frustrations out on me just like this. He (36M) was a career teacher with 2 kids from a previous relationship, and I was 21. I was 21 and taking 20 credit hours to finish my degree and working 29 hours per week (if I went over 29, the university would have to pay out benefits for us, so we were caped there). I tended house for him and his kids. Cooked, cleaned, paid “rent” to him, bought groceries for a family of four. 

The only fights we ever had was over how much I worked. He couldn’t stand that I didn’t work 40 hours a week like him. He hated that I enjoyed my time at work and had friends there. He griped that he never saw me working on stuff for school, that if I had time to do homework on campus, I should be looking for another part time gig. I didn’t give him enough money each month for expenses, which included taking care of his child support, debts, and bills. I payed my bills, his bills, and our bills. Of course, I didn’t realize it at the time; I never saw what our expenses were, just trusted what he said.  

The summer between graduation and the start of my master’s program, I worked 40-50 hours a week while he and the kids were on summer vacation. That summer, we separated because I wasn’t doing as much housework as he thought I should. All while he and the kids played video games and watched tv all day.

In short: dump him if he hounds you to work “as much” as him. He really means match him 150%

I was performing in a girl’s vocal ensemble for a Christmas thing about two years ago– it was a special where a bunch of girls tried out and we had some pretty damn serious rehearsals for a month before hand, and most of them had to learn how to sing chorally for the first time, which is no mean feat. When we got onstage, the male announcer just introduced us as “lovely” and “beautiful” and I just can’t help but ponder how ingrained it is that our value as performers is based off of our looks. We weren’t there to be pretty, we were there to sing…

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Second rehearsal with this pit orchestra. Maestro still hasn’t asked my name or addressed me as anything but “you.” Been putting up with his garbage conducting for about three and a half cumulative hours and I’m still sight reading like a champion. We get to a new part in the score that I haven’t yet played. It’s fast, loud, accented. Cool. Maestro looks at me BEFORE I EVEN PLAY and says “it’s ok if you can’t quite get it right, it can sound a little messy and it’ll be fine.” I’m sorry, what? I pick up my horn, nail it the first time. Get out of my face.

Something like this happened to the only girl trombonist in our regional wind symphony, this girl is first chair and absolutely slaying everything but when we get to a part with a solo, the director doesn’t even let her try it, just points to the second trombonist and says “how about you give it a try!” And from then on he had him do it every time. Even after the 2nd chair said it wasn’t fair, he wasn’t having it and threatened to give it to the third chair if he kept complaining, completely ignoring our first chair.

TELL ME SOMEONE REPORTED THIS SHIT

i made second chair horn in my district honor band this year. i knew the kid who was first chair, and i also knew that he didn’t make allstate when i did, so i was fine with it. about 5 minutes before our last rehearsal started, when everyone was warming up, a couple of 1st chair’s friends walked up to our section. they talked for a little while and i wasn’t paying attention until i noticed one of his friends look me up and down and say, “Ayy, [first chair’s name], <i>we</i> don’t have any female horns!” and then another one not-so-quietly add, “It’s because they can’t play. Bet that’s why she’s second chair.” 1st chair’s face was hilarious when they asked all members who made allstate to stand shortly before the concert.

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Even the most submissive of wives will test you from time to time. These tests might be intentional, or they might be subconscious, but the purpose of these tests are to ensure that she is safe in your leadership.

A test might like look outright intentional disobedience, or it might be more subtle - testing a boundary, pushing you to get a reaction, or generally bratty behavior.

The key to passing these tests are to recognize them for what they are. She’s looking to see if you will remain a strong oak in the face of adversity.

It’s easy to fail these tests - losing your temper, reacting in kind, or letting her attitude change yours. On the other side of the spectrum, you can also fail these tests by being aloof, indifferent, or giving in. These reactions tell her that she is not safe with you, and impairs her ability to fully submit.

Passing the test can be equally easy by exercising a technique called amused mastery.

Imagine that you were play-wrestling with your kids. You’d allow them to pin you, and it wouldn’t hurt your pride.  You wouldn’t take them as a serious threat. Even though they might be using every ounce of their strength to try to take you down, you’d see no need to match their effort. You’d find the whole thing fun and cute, confident in the fact that you know (and your kids know) that if they took things to far you could easily bring an end to it.

So it should be when your wife tests you. You shouldn’t match her emotional level, or get sucked into a battle. Your reaction to her should be loving, secure, and somewhat amused.

Amused Mastery in Action

My wife recently announced that she was on a laundry strike. “A what?”, I asked, arching my eyebrow with a mild grin. She then proceeded to tell me that there was too much laundry to do, and it wasn’t fair that she had to do all of it, so she was going on strike.

Now, there are a couple ways I could have failed this test.

I could have tried to logically explain to her we laundry was her responsibility and that if she had done more during the week, there wouldn’t be so much to do right now (pro-tip: if your plan for navigating your wife’s tests involves the use of logic … best of luck with that)

I could have lost my temper and yelled at her, which would have probably resulted in the laundry getting done but her feeling unsafe in my leadership.

I could have acquiesced with a “yes dear”. This would have also left her feeling unsafe in my leadership.

Here’s how it actually played out. I’m not saying it is the perfect approach, but hopefully it illustrates amused mastery in action. Picking the story back up …

Her: “(some convoluted reasoning on why she was on a laundry strike)

Me: “Ok, so you are on strike. Where is your picket sign?”

Her, stomp foot: “I’m serious!”

Me: “I know dear, this is all very serious. I guess I’ll need to do some laundry then. In fact, I should get started now.”

Her: “Good! Hey, what are you doing?”

Me: (Unzipping the back of her dress) “I’m doing laundry! Let’s get these in the washer ASAP”

Her: (starting to giggle but trying to remain very serious) “This isn’t what I meant!”

Me: (Undoing her bra and lowering her panties) “Sorry, but I am doing the laundry now and nothing can stop me”

Her: “We’ll see about that!”

Fast-forward. I’m lying in bed in a post-sex haze when I hear her quietly tip-toe out of the bedroom to start a load of laundry.

Do you want your wife to surrender and submit?Then give her the freedom to do so. Lead with purpose

Do you want your wife to surrender and submit?

Then give her the freedom to do so. Lead with purpose and passion. Own what goes on in your household. Free her from having to worry if you are on top of things.When men are too lazy or disengaged to lead, she will naturally feel the need to step into the gap, in the way that a mother will clean up after her children. But no woman wants to submit to her son - she wants to submit to her a competent, capable husband.Put another way - you must first own your sh*t before you can own her submission.
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“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall beco

“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”  Ephesians 5:31 (ESV)


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10 quotes, the corresponding information and the process and techniques to use for each of them:

1. “STOP POINTLESS JUDGEMENT’

we will challenge each other and the world and we will stop pointless judgement’ is the manifesto of the Happy Hippy Foundation, a charitable organisation founded by Miley Cyrus. Their mission is to ‘rally young people to fight injustice facing homeless youth, LGBTQ youth and other vulnerable populations’.

I will use a mixture of letters cut out from skin, and stamping the letters then embossing them creating a textured effect.

2. ‘BEAUTY AND SOCIAL CONSTRUCTS PERPETUATE FEELINGS OF SELF HATE.’

quote from Tyler Ford, agender writer, model and LGBTQ consultant. The media and society continually portray the idea that you have to look and act a specific way in order to be viewed as beautiful. These ideals are often unrealistic and unattainable, which is harmful because people are left feeling inadequate and unhappy with how they and their bodies look.

I will use one of the skin photographs as the background, embroider the words on and add glitter, embossing powder and ink, and burn into it.

3. ‘WE LIVE IN A DEEPLY MISOGYNISTIC SOCIETY’

Misogyny runs very deeply within our society, and men and boys often act towards women and girls in an extremely predatory manner. Men continually oppress women, and treat them like objects for them to own, it’s a man’s world that we live in.

I will use a blue background, then use a bold black font with the letters individually cut out, and then collage it with ink, embossing powder, glittery nail varnishes and heat it up, burning into the paper.

4. ‘YOU SUFFER TO BE BEAUTIFUL FOR A CERTAIN GAZE.’

Quote from Fanny Sosa, artist and activist. The male gaze is the idea that men are active and dominant whilst women are passive and submissive, and attempt to full fill the ideal expectations men set up for them. Feminine beauty practices show the extent that women go to, to make themselves acceptable for the male gaze, because ‘looking good is a caae of looking good for men.’ - Gender and Popular Culture

This will be on a background of a photo of skin with sewing, glitter, embossing powder and heating it up.

5. ‘RAISE BOYS AND GIRLS THE SAME’

It is important to raise children the same regardless of gender in order to break down these harmful gendered stereotypes. Children are very impressionable and breaking down these expectations of what it means to ‘be a man’ or ‘be a woman’ is an important step to achieving a more equal society.

I will make a background using inks, different embossing powders, glittery nail varnishes, and wax crayons and heat it up in different areas creating lots of texture, and then use a bright pink paper and cut all the letters out individually and lay it over the textured background.

6. ‘WE ALL HAVE INGRAINED MECHANISMS THAT ARE SEXIST AND RACIST.’

-quote from Fanny Sosa, artist and activist. The Western society is controlled by the patriarchy and white supremacists. In everything we see and do, ideal and expectations are continually forced upon us and many of these stem from sexist and racist frameworks. This is something that is important to recognise, and we must work together to fight against these ideas.

This I will also do using the skin photograph with embroidery and texture with glitter and embossing.

7. ‘THERE ARE MORE THAN TWO GENDERS.’

Gender is a social construct and it is very ignorant to say that there is nothing beyond ‘man’ and ‘woman’. Rather than viewing gender as these two distinct categories, it should be viewed as a spectrum, with a‘multidimensional array of possibilities.’ For more information visit genderspectrum.org.

8. ‘THERE IS A SPECIFIC WAY THAT SOCIETY EXPECTS YOU TO BEHAVE.’

Gendered stereotypes are continuously used in the media, for example in advertisements, often in subtle and overt ways but these fuel the idea that there is a specific way that society expects us to behave, which enforces conformity. Concepts of masculinity and femininity are social constructs and are not something that individuals should feel that they have to conform to.

This also will be a photograph of skin as the background with embroidery, glitter, embossing powder, ink and it heated up burning into it.

9. ‘COLOURS ARE NOT GENDERED.’

The gendered stereotype that is constantly reinforced says pink is for girls and blue is for boys, which is something that clothing companies aggressively market. It is harmful to push these gendered stereotypes onto children as it enforces the false idea that there is a specific way that boys or girls must be.

This will be done creating a textured background with ink, embossing powders, glittery nails varnish and crayons and heated up, then another layer in blue with the letters all hand cut out and layered over the top.

10. EDUCATION SHOULD NOT BE LIMITED TO THE HISTORY OF WHITE MALES.’

Education is hugely shaped by colonialism, placing white, Eurocentric writers, thinkers and activists and artists etc. above others. Many women and people of colour’s voices and histories are silenced and erased, in the place of white, Eurocentric males. Curriculums greatly need to be diversified. For more information visit www.nus.org.uk Why Is My Curriculum White?

This will be done on a pink background, with the text in a large bold font and the letters individually cut out, then texture created around it with inks, embossing powder and glittery nail varnishes, heated up and the paper burnt into.

For the front cover I am going to use FUCK WOMEN* with their consent. This bold derogatory statement will hopefully draw in people’s attention. By using this I hope that it will make someone look at the product who would otherwise be unlikely to view something on feminism. I want it to be something that spreads a message, to people who are less educated on the subject, ignorant or who take Emily Hill’s stance that feminism is no longer needed, to teach them how this is not the case. The cover will either be like a sleeve with the letters hand cut out and a glittery background underneath, or I will make it in pink fabric and cut the letters out in felt. I will bind it like a flip book with a metal hoop so that each of the pages can potentially be unattached and taken out and displayed as individual posters. I am also going to print out an insert to go at the front.

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