Can someone recommend a good site for finding dominant men? Preferably ones into diapers or dirty play?

I’ve got accounts on recon, fetlife, diaper-bois and scatboi but I very rarely find people on there. Almost nobody is into diaper domination, it’s almost always people looking for mutual play

Finding couples would be good too, but I don’t know where to start with that.

Id really appreciate if people could fill my inbox with suggestions

I’d just like to share some helpful tips I’ve been taught over the years, if it’s alright…

1. Make sure you proofread your work a couple times before posting- not only for spelling errors, but for punctuation and grammar. It makes a difference!

2. Check your spacing and paragraphs. If it’s a new thought, it gets a new line. A new person speaking? It’s a new line. For example -

Dean stood at the edge of the road looking down at the loosened dirt at his feet. He felt something shift in the air and spun around to face the threat.

The black eyes of the crossroads demon blinked as she grinned, watching him closely.

“Well, hello handsome…” her voice purred.

“Stow it bitch,” Dean snapped, not in the mood for any games.

3. Try not to use the same words or sentences over and over. Repetitiveness is dull.

4. If you can, have a beta reader. It’s worth it to have fresh eyes on your side!

5. Don’t write something if you don’t feel it. You are better off waiting for inspiration or saying no if it’s not your thing than trying to force a mood.

6. Enjoy your own story! It’s your art! Nobody can tell you where it has to go. If you want flying pizzas falling at your feet, then write it, dammit. Nobody can tell you it has to make sense to them, it is yours, not theirs. Think, Jabberwocky.

7. Writing is an art. You paint pictures for the readers with words. You (hopefully) make them feel things. That’s not for nothing. In fact, it’s pretty fucking awesome.

8. Everyone started somewhere. Everyone was a guppy at one time. If you have questions, ask. Learn. It is so incredibly awesome that other writers like those here on @spnfanficpond are offering to help. Use them!

9. Re-blog others works. Share. Give the credit and the kudos you would want from others. Always give proper credit to others ideas. It’s important. You wouldn’t want someone else taking credit for something you’d worked hard on. Be kind.

10. The only failure is not trying. Keep swimming.

11. Ask for constructive criticism. (Don’t take shit from trolls though. They don’t count.)

12. Accept offers of help. Understand most fellow writers want to help you succeed.

13. Don’t panic if some one doesn’t like your art… Think of it this way- do you like every picture, poem or song out there? No. You don’t… and not everyone will like your sky pizza story. But that is okay! It’s not meant for everyone to like.

14. Stand up for yourself. If someone tries to push you around, telling you they don’t like your stories or troll you then please re-read number 13, block them, and don’t let them silence you. Don’t let them win. If it makes you happy- that is all that matters.

15. Write many different things, many different ways, for your own joy. Paint your colors for the world you see, not the one you think people want to see. You’ll be so surprised to find there are others out there who get it. (Hang on to these people when you do find them. They are your tribe…)

I hope something I’ve said may possibly help a fellow writer. Sending love out to you all! 

Please feel free to share, reblog or follow me here, @xdreamxloverx@ladybecky-spnimagineshares or on my #CriminalMinds accounts @scarlett-series@ladybecky-imagineshares2 or at FFN and AO3 @ladybjkd

*Smooches* ~Becky

Thank you so much for this wonderful submission Becky! These are all amazing points and extremely good advice. 

mr-entj:

Combined with the following asks:

• In one of your 10 Qs you talked about adversity, I’ve never read you mention that any other time (happening in your life). If you don’t mind telling us what was the biggest thing you’ve had to overcome in your life? (or the general idea of it)
  
• Have you ever experienced failure/rejection? (e.g. Love, career, etc) If so, how did you deal with it? Would really appreciate any tips or insights you have on how to be tougher in discouraging situations. Thank you!
  
• Did you ever face any real rejections(like from a job, school, anything)? If not, how do you imagine you’d deal with it so you could move on?
  
• How do you deal with failure?
• How do you manage to handle failuresandlosses? What are the things you do to get back up? 

Have you ever experienced failure and rejection?

There isn’t enough server space on Tumblr to catalog all my failures, challenges, rejections, and losses. Of course I’ve failed, I’ve failed my way to success, and I’m proud of each and every single one because they’re part of my journey and my development to becoming a badass motherfucker.

Some of my most spectacular and epic failures, rejections, challenges, and losses in life:

• I grew up in poverty. When I was 5, I witnessed my mother sell her wedding ring to a pawn shop so she could buy bags of rice for our family. 24 years later, I bought her a home.
• Growing up in poverty also meant I grew up in a rough lower income neighborhood with frequent robberies and stabbings. I got jumped and bullied a lot at school so I quickly learned how to fight. I was never picked on again.
• I almost failed middle school then I almost failed high school. I was almost held back in 10th grade. I failed two must-pass classes and had to attend summer school to make them up. I was an academic underachiever in high school while dealing with a lot of personal issues. A decade later I was accepted to every UC university plus USC, graduated UCLA summa cum laude, and graduated USC magna cum laude. 
• I was kicked out and forced to transfer from my first high school due to severe behavioral problems. My teachers told me I wouldn’t amount to anything because I had “a bad attitude, was combative, and lazy.”
• I was the problem child in my family. A lot of my extended family didn’t want their kids around me back then (I have 18 aunts and uncles and 32 cousins) because they thought I was a bad influence and I was the pariah at family gatherings. Now, they all reach out and flood me with requests to mentor their kids on academic, career, and life matters– I’m suddenly a role model.
• It was a dream of mine to play basketball in college but in 11th grade they discovered a developmental deformation in my bones and that dream was over. I had major surgery to have my hip sawed in three places, my pelvis shifted, and nailed back into place. I went through an excruciating 6 months of physical therapy where I had to piss into a catheter bag, I was temporarily wheelchair bound, I had to re-learn how to walk using a walker, and my severed thigh nerves had to be stimulated with electricity. I have an 11-inch thick rope scar on my right hip.
• I’ve had 6 (yes, six – seis – sechs) psychologists to help me with my anger management and mental health issues. I wrestled with depression all throughout my teenage years that culminated in a very dramatic and very unnecessary attempt on my life when I was 19.
• I was financially disowned by my parents and had to drop out of college for two years. I attended community college and worked 3 jobs, one of which was as ajanitor. I’ve scrubbed shit off toilets and barf off floors to make ends meet, I’ve had a knife pulled on me as a cashier at Target, and my body has been 90% salt and 10% water from all the ramen packets I ate because that was the only food I could afford.
• I had to forfeit my acceptance to my dream college – one that I worked tirelessly to get for 3 years – because my family couldn’t afford it.
• In 2011, I had to have more surgery. My parents and I weren’t on the same page at the time so my fucking amazing friends (Anthony, I know you’re reading this <3) accompanied me during the recovery process. They helped change my drains, clean my bandages, feed me, carry me to the bathroom, drive me to and from the hospital (an 800 mile round trip). I returned to school immediately after still wrapped in bandages and walked across campus to my classes with the help of a cane for 2-3 weeks. Never missed a single class that quarter, finished with a 4.0.
  
• My parents couldn’t afford MCAT and GRE prep courses (~$3000) when I was applying to medical school and grad school so I started a small business in my dorm room buying and selling video game and anime soundtracks to raise the cash. I ended up giving the money I made to my family to save their home and instead bought a bunch of books and just self-studied instead. I scored in the 99 percentile for both tests anyway and I was accepted into the majority of the colleges I applied to. 
  
• I was rejected from all the consulting firms – all – that I applied to after undergrad. All. Not even one callback. At the time they wouldn’t even extend the courtesy of a rejection email. Two years later, the same consulting firms that rejected me all extended offers and competed against each other to win me over. 

And those are just a fewexamples, that’s the abridgedversion.

How did you deal with failure, rejection, and losses?

Success is never final, failure is never fatal. It’s courage that counts.

John Wooden

I fought back. I don’t know what to tell you except to fight back. You tried, you failed, you fell, you’re rejected, you lost, and it sucks, you’re hurt, you may be crying, and you’re feeling awfully sorry for yourself– okay I get it, but now what? Is that the end of it? It’s not. You get back up.

More thoughts:

1. It’s not an ENTJ thing. That’s the first thing I want you to understand since most of you know me through the MBTI community. There’s nothing sparkly, special, or inherently superior about ENTJs that gives them more grit, makes them tougher, and makes them more resilient than the other types. There’s nothing about your MBTI type, your cognitive function order or stack, your zodiac, your enneagram, your Chinese zodiac, your birthstone, your birth month, whether or not the fairy spirits accepted your sacrifice of lavender and skittles, or whether or not Saturn was humping Pluto when you were conceived that prevents you from getting back up after you fall. That is a choice you make that you must take ownership and responsibility for. So make the right choice.
2. You can do everything perfectly and still fail. Failure is inevitable so you must have resilience, minimize your chances for failure, and maximize your chances for success. A valedictorian straight A student in high school with 50 extracurricular activities and glowing letters of recc can still get rejected from Harvard University so what chance does a B student with 1 extracurricular activity and no letters of recc have? An upper middle class white collar worker who responsibly manages his money can lose all his savings and his home during the recession so what chance does a similar person with shit money management skills have? Don’t sabotage yourself: prepare, be disciplined, be timely, be persistent. Ensure that everything that’s within your control is done to the best of your ability.
3. Don’t fail for free. When you fail– make sure you get something out of it like a lesson, more wisdom, more perspective, and more confidence. If you were an idiot pre-failure then you better be less of an idiot post-failure. Learn from your mistakes and don’t suffer without getting something back in return.
4. The time you spend whining is precious time you waste not winning. If you’re trying to win a marathon and you stub your toe on the road, you don’t stop running, sit down, and complain about it while all the other runners pass you by. Feel free to bitch about it and curse to your heart’s content but keep running. Don’t stop. Even when I fuck up (and I do) and I need to nurse my wounds, I’m wrapping that bandage while still charging towards my goals at full speed. My foot never leaves the pedal. Don’t compound the problem and miss new opportunities because you’re dwelling on past ones.
   
5. Don’t take it personally, sometimes it’s not under your control. When I graduated grad school the same consulting firms that flat out rejected me two years prior were banging on my door with lucrative offers. I asked the recruiter why I didn’t get an offer back then and they said it was due to the recession– a simple timing issue. There were 400 applications and 7 spots, my application was number 385, and they’d already closed the screening process. I had a solid application, solid GPA, great internships, but there were no open positions at the time. That’s just how it goes sometimes.
6. Be persistent, sometimes it IS under your control. The same recruiter who told me the recession triggered a hiring freeze at most consulting firms also told me he was extremely glad I applied again two years later because the economy picked up and talent was high in demand. In addition to a bunch of offers, I ended up with a higher salary than the consultants hired during the recession. If I stayed pissed at them I wouldn’t have applied again two years later and ended up in a career I love.
7. No one is coming to save you, it’s on you to make it happen. You know that scene in Harry Potter: Prisoner of Azkaban where Harry and Hermione are in the Forbidden Forest waiting for Harry’s dad to save them from the dementors? And when no one comes and they’re inches from death Harry finally realizes the person he saw rescued them was actually himself so he steps in and saves both their lives? Yeah, it’s like that. Don’t wait around for someone to rescue you because they won’t always be there to bail you out. Be able to get back up and step back in the ring on your own. You are your own champion.

biggest-gaudiest-patronuses:

i graduated a few years ago and i want to share with you some things:

• I grew up being called ’gifted’ and smart. I did really well in school, to the point my identity depended on it. Then in college, I failed entire semesters, more than once. I also dropped out at one point.
  
• It was devastating and I was terrified.
  
• And yet: EVERYTHING TURNED OUT OK. 

B/c despite what they’d have you believe, this is not the end of the world, and you are going to be okay. 

Repeat it with me: You are going to be okay. 

It’s common to feel like “everything depends on this.” I promise: it doesn’t. A couple things I want you to know

• ***Your worth & intelligence is absolutely absolutely ABSOLUTELY not based on or reflected by your grades.*** 
• The atmosphere you’re currently in breeds stress. Educational institutions have this messed up culture that pushes our minds into an ’emergency mode’ that does not reflect reality and forces you to panic unnecessarily. That’s why:
  
• Things are never as desperate as they feel.
• The panic you’re feeling is something you’ve been trained to feel, but it is not truthful. 
• If you don’t do as well as you hoped: sweetheart, that Is fine.We naturally aim for more than we can reasonably manage, in order to push ourselves. Not reaching a goal doesn’t mean you ‘failed’, it means you aimed high and I’m proud of you.
  
• Everyone who has ever done anything has failed at some point. People who never fail are people who never try.
• Failing a class/classes is NOT the end of the line. Sometimes we need more time, or a second chance. Sometimes we need a different direction
• For years I thought I wanted to be an engineer. I declared that major as a freshman. I ended up retaking several classes before realizing that no, this subject was not actually a good fit and didn’t me happy. 
• The subject I eventually got a degree in? I actually had to retake a few of the introductory classes, alongside classmates who weren’t even in the program but seemed to have an easier time than me. At the time I was embarrassed. Now, I’m proud that i stuck with it
• Please do not be afraid to ask for help even/especially when a deadline has passed/you feel ashamed for not asking sooner. Or rather: please ask for help even when you’re scared and it’s late in the semester. It literally cannot hurt. 

You are still learning how to learn, teach yourself, and self-monitor. This is a Huge Big Part of being an Adult that very few of us don’t get formal training for. So of course you will make mistakes along the way. Mistakes are a symptom of progress.

You are making progress, and for that alone you deserve to celebrate yourself

lstheme:

“You get what you ask for. If you want to disappear, you got it. If you want to be seen and heard, you can have that too. Disappearing is much easier, I have to say. It doesn’t take much energy to shut up and fade away. What’s much more challenging is acknowledging to yourself that you’re worthy of being here and facing the pain that’s required of being seen.” - Michelle D’Avella

10 Ways We Hide from the World & Why We Need to Be Seen

When I was in highschool I let my social anxiety completely take control of my life. I disappeared. I didn’t interact with anyone, talk to anyone, participate in class or whatsoever. Barely anyone in my class knew my name.

And it’s true, disappearing and giving up is so easy, but to have a lifestyle where no one acknowledges you or where you stop expressing yourself is much harder.

Now I’m trying my best to challenge my social anxiety and open up to my surroundings, I got sick of being invisible, I want to be seen.

It is hard and very mentally challenging for me, but I want to change.

as-if-unreal:

shrikesing:

33v0:

this is the best tag I’ve ever gotten in my notifs actually

This video is by Mikasacus on YouTube! He makes a lot of existential/sarcastic/funny content, including several other videos in this series, and I think Tumblr would love him. Please credit creators!

vibecheckinwitch:

ashton-slashton:

scarlct-vvitch:

i honestly dont get why people stopped reblogging things they like on here bc like what are you afraid of??? people thinking youre cringey?? guess what bitch! youre on tumblr! it’s all cringey! reblog everything you like and do it shamelessly no one fuckin cares

Bc I know some of y'all are about to have a fit in the notes

seeminglycaptivating:

A little tip for parents with children in school (or for children in school to show their parents)

My mom gave me and my sister two days every semester that she called “mental health days.”

Those were days, that for ANY reason, and without having to tell my mom the reason, we could skip the day of school. We’d just tell her we were taking a mental health day and she’d call the school and let them know we were not coming in. 

#1 This helped keep our grades up by lowering our stress levels. I never got a C in any grade school class. The majority of my classes I received A’s. I also took 4 AP classes and they were not weighted. Trust me, it made a difference.

#2 I never felt the need to skip school. I knew if I ever wanted to or needed to my mom would help me. 

Your kids are young and need time to recover. They need some days where they can do nothing but stay in bed for no reason. They need their own space where their privacy is respected. It will make a huge difference.

zoeyrph:

zoeyrph:

Some roleplays require you to write in third person deep point of view (different to third person POV). Here’s a few tips that’ll help you with this narrative voice! Please note that this wasn’t written by me, and credit goes here. [x]

So you know the rules of point of view (POV), the difference between first and third person. You understand what writers refer to as “deep POV.” You’ve decided you want to write that way, offering your reader an immersive experience in the thoughts and senses of your character. But when looking at your scenes, how do you know you’re writing deep? And if you’re not, how do you start?

1) Eliminate sense verbs; instead, describe the sense itself. This is the difference between He saw a flower growing through the gaps in the fence and A flower grew through the gaps in the fence. In the first, the reader is seeing the character see something. In the second, the reader is seeing what the character sees. For the same reason, deep POV characters should never remark on their own blushing cheeks or white smile (unless they’re standing in front of a mirror). This principle can be applied to all of the senses, almost all the time. He heard an alarm blaring from the hallway vs. An alarm blared from the hallway. Tell us the coffee tasted too sweet, not that she tasted the coffee.

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writing-the-words:

Designing the world map for your novel, series, or story can be an exciting but frustrating process. If you already have a good idea about the land in your story, it might be time to build a world map. If you are only just starting to dream up your world, there are some things you might want to consider first.  

Knowing How Geography Works 

If your world is earth-like, in the sense that the world follows our basic laws of science, physics, and geography, you will probably want to keep things realistic in terms of geography. When planning your map, know the geographic types around the reasons. Does your world have mountain ranges? Rivers? Lakes? If so, you need to think of how those things came to be. 

Mountains are formed by the plates in the earth’s crust moving together, or from volcanic eruptions after magma cools. Mountains lead to rivers, as rainwater gets caught in the mountains and naturally begins to flow downhill towards the ocean. Remember that downhill means it will depend on the elevation, not all rivers need to flow south. Do some research before just throwing in a landmass. Ask yourself “why is this here?” rather than throwing in convenient settings for your story. 

Drawing the Land

Once you have an idea for your world, there is nothing stopping you from beginning to draw. On a normal piece of paper, you can begin to draw a landmass. Try to avoid using straight lines, as those tend to be unrealistic, stick more to wavy edges. Also, keep in mind that the paper should not limit you. Don’t plan your world to fit in a rectangle. Take some time looking at other maps and see what you like. 

Once you have the landmasses figure out, add some islands in between them. Name your oceans, draw in mountain ranges, then rivers, and some lakes. Begin to plant forests and dry out deserts. Let your land come to life. 

Plot Landmarks

It might be useful to plot major landmarks from your world. The capital city, or the castle where the royal family lives, for instance. If religion plays a large role in your world, plot the churches or temples. Perhaps draw in the main roads, or the kings road, if trade or travel is important to the society. Keep in mind that whatpeople put on maps is dependent on what they care about. 

Best of Luck and Happy Writing,
M.R.M.

Invest In Yourself! You’ll be Glad You Did

Invest In Yourself! You’ll be Glad You Did !

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If anyone is qualified to talk about investing in self it’s me.

If your like me you can relate when I say I always put stock into others and uplift others, but when it comes to myself I get anxious or I ignore my own needs. This in return leaves me drained, exhausted, and at the end of the day a recluse.

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To Niche or Not to Niche

To Niche or Not to Niche

A Niche is described as denoting products, services, or interests that appeal to a small, specialized section of the population. Ex. A t-shirt shop for motor bikers, a blog for young entrepreneurs, a e commerce shop that sells coffee mugs with dog mom memes. All Niches all vary in variety and the market they serve. A niche is the living embodiment of the saying “there’s a little something for…

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raychillster:

note to self: you are an intelligent woman. forgive yourself for all the times you were stupid and naive. you are a woman of heart. forgive yourself for the times you were soft when you should have been hard.

fuckyeahhakuoukiocs:

slangwang:

gems-n-kyojin:

“How can a guy have no faults, to be human is too be flawed, a real hero must struggle”

“Yeah but he’s boring he’s perfect and he never makes mistakes”

“Wish i could say the same for myself”

“Yeah but nobodies like that”

“Everybody gets stuff wrong and then you have to keep going, and its hard, which is why its great when you never stop trying”

“A real hero struggles”

Even though this is for the SU fandom, this should be shared with every fandom. OC makers, take note. No one needs to be perfect.