So! I saw someone refer to bi/pan/ace solidarity as the triforce of sexualities and was immediately inspired to make this! I’ll make it into a keychain later. Always gotta remember your allies
(As a result I’ve neglected to do my year of stitches bit for the day, so I’ll double up tomorrow.)
I decided to throw my hat into the Pride Month Art ring! So, I drew an Asexual Pride Unicorn.
In medieval lore, Unicorns were a symbol of chastity. It was said they could only be captured by virgins or those “uninterested in sex”, so I figured they’d make an excellent posterchild for Asexuals! And yes, I know that not all Asexuals are virgins, and chastity/abstinence and Asexuality are NOT the same thing, but I like Unicorns so I hope it’s alright for now.
And of course, you can’t have an LGBT post without mushrooms!
I always feel so sad when I see this guys art of the Titans. It’s so good but then I remember my time following him on Twitter and seeing him retweet asexual exclusionist posts and him agreeing with them.
@narutofoxlover ??? You know… he’s ace himself right? He came out as ace? He’s… he’s ace-
Sometimes people hate things because they recognize those things in themselves. Most important thing, if he did retweet stuff like that in the past he’s changed now and I’m glad to have him as another asexual icon!
so i came out as ace last year and ive been in my first healthy ace relationship for six months now and im so happy. its weird having to come out twice and wrestle with the Shame and internalized acephobia but six months in im already starting to take for granted not having to think about sex and its such a relief to exchange ace stories and ace feels together. i wish everyone who sees this post, regardless of sexuality, lots of love and blessings.
It’s only one month until June, so I thought it would be nice to have a small event to celebrate the ace community in the Shadowhunters fandom.
I want to create an ace alphabet with you. For that, you’d get one or several letter(s) from me with a prompt word that you can leave or take. You can write/paint whatever you want in the Shadowhunters/Shadowhunter Chronicals Universe, with no minimum word count or anything, as long as the ace character is recognisable as such and the prompt of your choosing keeps to the letter I’ll give you.
Rules:
*Only works in written or painted form (no moodboards, etc.)
*Must include an ace character (doesn’t need to be the focus of the work but should be noticeable)
*Must be posted on the date I’ll give you (between June 1-26)
I just went through the most exhausting debate online. It was my fault, I should’ve just blocked all of them from the beginning.
I swear if I get one more reply, I’m deleting that comment altogether.
Long story short, someone replied to a comment of mine with “maybe they have seggs every night”. (You don’t need the context, just that.)
To which I replied with, “every night? yikes”
Now a person replied to that with, “why yikes?”
And I said, “well that’s gotta hurt, right? give you rashes or smth?”
And they were like, “nope. what kind of seggs have you had that gave you a rash?”
Naturally, I responded with, “oh no, I’m asexual so no smex for me, I was just making an assumption that sounds logical to me”
And this as*hole of a person says, “plenty of asexuals have seggs, don’t use that excuse”
Which bewildered me to no bounds. I said, “huh? Yeah I already know that some asexuals have seggs? That’s not the point here”
After that, it was basically me and them going back and forth the same bullsh¡t, other people joining in.
That first person kept saying that I shouldn’t say “I’m sex-repulsed because I’m ace”, when I never said that. And even if I did, so what? I would’ve probably had seggs if I hadn’t found out I’m asexual so there’s definitely a correlation there.
Was I in the wrong? Is it illegal for me to say that seggs is overrated and gross to me? Should I just keep my mouth shut and only talk freely in our safe spaces instead?
I was remembering how earlier this year I was using the labels “homoromantic asexual” or “ace lesbian” to describe myself. For a few months, those labels helped me understand the lesbian experience and how I related to it and ultimately to know if I was really a lesbian or not. I knew I was asexual and I was sure of that part of me, but… romantic attraction was always more complicated to understand bc I didn’t know if I had felt it or not.
I was sure that I didn’t feel attracted to men at all (romantically or sexually) but women… it had me wondering; aesthetic attraction and all haha. Hence, why the lesbian label helped me understand that. I came to understand that I do experience platonic and emotional attraction very strongly towards women/female aligned people but it has never been romantic in nature. Eventually, I learned I’m an aromanticasexual person. I’ve never experienced romantic attraction and I had mistook it for platonic attraction towards my similar gender all along. I had never desired a romantic partner either, it was more of the idea of one. But I’ve never felt that desire directed at someone specific, regardless of gender.
I guess I’m writing this for anyone out there that needs it: it’s okay to be confused, it’s okay to be wrong and think you’re x when you’re actually z. It’s okay to try on different labels and find the ones that describe your experience better, the ones that you’re comfortable with. It’s okay. I promise
Yea I went through something similar.
My crush on that one girl faded over the holidays and when I realized, I was baffled for a moment. That had never happened before.
But looking back at my “feelings”, I realized I was right every time I said it wasn’t a crush. It truly wasn’t.
I just admire that girl A LOT, I still do. But those weren’t romantic feelings nor seggsual attraction. It was just me “forcing” myself to put those unnamed emotions into a perfectly labeled box, as per usual.
Plus, I have a history of always having someone to “obsess over” in order to excuse myself for not paying attention in class or to procrastinate stuff I’m supposed to be doing.
Truth is, I’m way happier when I’m “crush-free” and not thinking of someone at all. I wish I could uninstall this need to have “an object of affection” when I just don’t want to have it.
OP is right. It’s okay to think that you’ve finally found the labels that suit you and later to realize that they don’t fit as well as you thought. It’s okay to skim through multiple labels until you find the right one(s). Or not. Deciding to stay sans-label isn’t a bad thing either.
Good thing queer exists, I use it for more often than you think
This artist, celepom has some of the coolest art about asexuality that you simply MUST read! I promise you’ll find yourself in at least one of her episodes of:
I can’t even begin to imagine what it’s like for you guys. Being seen as inherently hyper-sexual beings, just cuz “you’re men and that’s what all men are like/all men do”
That’s some load of BS
Whoever said that can go to the underground sauna
A-spec AMABs but not only: I see you.
You’re valid and appreciated and loved! A “man’s duty” is no longer based on what the ancient doctrines of patriarchy say. Honestly, fxck patriarchy.
Women are supposed to be prudes, men should always seek sexual contact blah-blah-blah
HOW ABOUT!!!! We let diversity spread and let people be who they want to be, do what they want to do with their lives? Eh?
talking with my friends (alloromantics) about romance, relationships and crushes, they explained to me that they usually feel a difference between having “crush” and a “person they like.” which made me very confused bc I thought both were the same . but apparently a crush is like unattainable or just physical attraction, whereas a person you like is someone you actually care for, love and want to spend time next to, romantically. kind of made sense but it still made me realize I don’t experience either .
Don’t you ever dare to say that representation doesn’t matter, when I started to cry, while reading Loveless by Alice Oseman, at the part where Sunil told Georgia that there wasn’t anything to be done about being aroace and that all she needed to do was be who she was.
I cried, because it was the very first time I have EVER seen aromanticism and asexuality represented in a book, having a big part of my experience in a book and that book telling me it is OK and that I didn’t need to do shit to be whole and accepted.
And it is not like I was terribly insecure about my sexuality but this book hit so hard.
So don’t you dare say that aroace rep doesn’t matter.
