so i guess he might know
“The “generation gap” is an important social tool for any repressive society. If the younger members of a community view the older members as contemptible or suspect or excess, they will never be able to join hands and examine the living memories of the community, nor ask the all important question, “Why?” This gives rise to a historical amnesia that keeps us working to invent the wheel every time we have to go to the store for bread.
We find ourselves having to repeat and relearn the same old lessons over and over that our mothers did because we do not pass on what we have learned, or because we are unable to listen. For instance, how many times has this all been said before? For another, who would have believed that once again our daughters are allowing their bodies to be hampered and purgatorial by girdles and high heels and hobble skirts?”— Audre Lorde, “Age, Race, Class, and Sex,” in Sister Outsider
And I love the followup comment:
it is so funny how life is just whatever. it’s hilarious. life is so regimented all the way through high school and then after that you just do literally whatever it’s all just whatever. you’re like “should i do this?” and everyone you know is like “just do whatever” absolutely incredible. that can’t be real
there are so many things that I want to do. I think I will stay on my phone for 2 more hours
“hi welcome to mcdonalds what can i get for you?”
“yeah can i get a deluxe quarter pounder with cheese?”
“absolutely, do you want the meal or just the sandwich?’
“uuuuuh hold on”
*fishes something out of my pocket*
“mikey what do i do?”
“get the fries. youll need the energy in the coming days”
*stuffs it back in my pocket*
“uhh yes please the meal would be great”
serious question: can anyone else see this post? am I hallucinating?
So apparently a lot of people are experiencing weather and road conditions they rarely see (same here, we don’t usually get this cold, but at least it’s not entirely unprecedented) and plenty of folks still have to drive.
My dad was very good at teaching me to drive, and took me out to drive on ice on purpose so I could see what it felt like. We’d go up hills, find places where I could deliberately put myself into a skid just to see how it felt, etc. I have no doubt it has saved my life, or at least saved me from some nasty potential accidents, in the intervening years.
So, for those who didn’t have someone to teach them, here are a few of the tips he gave me. I realize there are plenty of other tips pages out there too, but just in case, I figured I would share.
1) Drive slowly. This one seems obvious but seriously, slow the heck down. Like way the heck down. On icy roads you will rarely want to go more than 20mph, sometimes even slower than that.
2) Give yourself plenty of breaking room. Leave WAY more space between you and the cars ahead of you than you normally would, to give your car plenty of time to slow down on slippery roads.
3) Tap your brakes, don’t slam on them. Even antilock brakes (ABS), which are meant to prevent your tires from locking up and just sliding across a frictionless icy surface, benefit from this tip. Apply slow gentle pumps to your brakes, to help avoid sending your car into a skid. If you don’t have ABS or aren’t sure, then do this anyway.
4) If you do skid, don’t panic. Take your foot off the accelerator, then turn into the skid–meaning whichever direction your back tires are going, you should turn your wheel the same way. This will help you “catch” the skid and stop spinning.
5) If you have a standard transmission, get into higher gears asap. They give you more control over your vehicle. I realize that’s not many people these days, but for those who still drive stick, higher gears = more control.
6) Slow down for turns. Yes, even slower than you’re already going. Take them by inches if you have to. Turns are where you’re more likely to skid since you’re changing the momentum of your vehicle on a low-friction surface. Be especially careful in parking lots.
7) Bridges freeze first, so even if the road seems dry or ice-free, in cold, wintery conditions, bridges are often still icy. I remember driving out of a wintery storm a few years ago and feeling my back tires fishtail every time I hit an overpass. Be careful, and try not to accelerate or brake on a bridge if you don’t have to. I tend to just coast until I’m on solid ground again.
8) Let your car warm up before you start driving. Your engine will perform better if you give the various lubricants in there time to liquify again. Start your car and let it run for several minutes (5-10 if possible) before you try driving. This will also give your defrost time to melt the ice on your window so you don’t have to scrape so much.
9) If possible, don’t drive a car with an old or questionable battery. If you have a choice between a vehicle with an older battery or a newer one, go with the newer one.
10) Don’t be overconfident, even if you have a large heavy vehicle with 4-wheel drive. Ice doesn’t really care; you can still skid, slip, or lose control even in heavier vehicles. I can’t tell you how often I see trucks and 4-wheel-drive SUVs stuck in snowbanks in this kind of weather because the drivers think they are invincible.
11) Weigh down the back if you’re driving alone. If possible, put something heavy in the back of your vehicle to get some weight over the back tires. This is especially important for trucks and will help you keep control of your vehicle by giving some extra friction to your rear tires.
12) Always assume there is ice on the road in weather below freezing, even if it just looks wet. Black ice looks like water and is very dangerous.
13) Keep your defrost on high to keep your windshield clear of ice.
14) If your vehicle suddenly feels light, like it’s gliding or floating, take your foot OFF the accelerator but do not slam the brakes. Let yourself glide until you feel your tires “catch” the pavement again. Tap the brakes to test if you are out of the slide, but DO NOT slam them, as this can send you into a skid.
Anyway these are just tips my dad has given me over the years and they’ve definitely gotten me through some slippery situations. If you have to drive, be very careful!
The main thing is go SLOW, don’t try to pass people, let them pass you if they insist on it, and take your time. Leave for work or school plenty early and take your time.
Be safe out there! Oh, and any of my followers or folks who see this who drive on icy roads more often, feel free to add on. This is mostly aimed at people who may not do this often and may also not have the tires or chains that northern folk do.
PSA: Cellulite and stretch marks are normal. The only reason we’ve been told that they’re not is because companies want to sell you products to reduce, minimize, or eliminate these very natural body characteristics. Your body is not a photoshop picture. Stop beating yourself up for being human.
idk it is kinda scary that hospitals, at least where im from, just kind of expect everyone to know how to wash a baby or clip a babys nails or do proper diaper care, for instance, and dont really offer a lot of help postpartum. on top of that they sort of just expect everyone to already know about community resources that could help bridge this gap.
I bring this up because everytime I go to the hospital for my sons checkups I am congratulated on my son not having diaper rash, having trimmed nails, and being clean.
When I ask why they congratulate me on this they say the majority of parents they see don’t do these things either because they cant or they dont know how
and tbh if the people working in the hospital know this is a problem and has been a problem for so long i wonder why they dont try to reach out more to parents in need?
parent outreach in arizona seems to be pretty bad compared to other states ive lived in.
okay I have never taken a uquiz that genuinely made me feel attacked before like people say they do but that “what personality trait that I hate are you” or whatever quiz came for my throat like I literally slapped my hand over my mouth while I read it neer in my life have I felt so raked over the coals
this is a good quiz
one of my favorite fucking feelings in the world is when you’re having a discussion with somebody about literature and themes and storytelling and etc or even just like, your feelings, and as you’re rambling on about the interpretation of something-or-the-other you have this lightbulb moment where two ideas connect in your head all of a sudden and you couldn’t have done it without the context of another person there and you both get so excited about this new theory you’re developing
like. collaboration. trust. complexity. awakenings. this shit isn’t just analysis, it’s art.
There really is a tweet for everything
There really is a tweet for everything
this photo set society back 50 years